I wish I could answer this question for you, but I think it’s different for everyone. Maybe it depends on the length of the relationship, the relationship itself, or maybe it depends on your own personality. What I do know is this; there are ways to make the process more bearable. When I broke-up with my last b-friend, I came across these tips and maybe they can help you too.

• You won’t move on until you’ve truly accepted that the relationship is over.

• Grief is a process and not a destination. Don’t wallow in your grief. Don’t dwell on the negative and don’t blame yourself. Go through the process, be angry, be sad, cry and scream, but don’t stay in that dark place. Take one baby step at a time and hours turn into days, days into weeks and so on and so on. Each little step is a step closer to healing your heart.

• Don’t obsess about your ex. Don’t keep track of his/her actions, don’t call or e-mail all the time, let go!

• Moving past a break-up is all about you and not your ex. Get to know yourself again and become your own best friend (again) and live. Don’t let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You owe it to yourself.