Okay, I know that an action may seem like something plausble to do, but your end goal is to be confident, right? “Being More Confident” is a great goal, yet it is vaugue.
Getting it done and feeling like a new person takes a change in behavior. By taking charge in every situation, your feelings create an internal reaction. You are in control , you have no one to fear – accept you still need to think!
Think logically and you will be free from your pitty and self loathing (albeit only breifly).