I have been wondering about skype. I don’t think we need it now though, we get enough of each other now I think. It’s all relative – at first it was really really hard and seemed really unfair that we didn’t get to spend enough time together, and now we have enough (more than enough somedays, it seems). I would love to know how that works.

My experience is that if I keep getting more and more wrapped up in a relationship, eventually the relationship deteriorates. I don’t know but I suspect this is because my expectations of it increase at the same rate, and eventually no kind of relationship can live up to them. And that, I suspect, is because no kind of relationship is big enough or great enough to take up the entire space of one person’s life.

It boggles me, how it works, because I get tied up in the “relationships need work” and “the more you give to a relationship the better it is” type logic, but I know from trial and abysmal errors that doing things for myself, taking care of myself, putting time aside for myself, improves the quality of the time I spend with him, increases what I have to give him, and he is happier because I am happier because he is happier because… blah blah blah to pukeworthy infinity.

Because of our relationship we are both able support each other in living our own lives. With more gusto than before.

_{following the conclusion of this sugar-coated epistle I shall be retiring to my chair of thorns to extract three teeth and a toenail or two.}

It took me 18 months of doing nothing but yucky love stuff before I realised I had chores to finish.

^{it’s nice though}