eternalstart

stop trying to control everything
I must be such an arsehole.

I feel like I have to control everything. No, really. If things don’t go as I ‘plan’ (or, more commonly, expect) or something unexpected happens then it just shits me off. I’m sick of this.

Clearly I cannot control everything in my life, yet I seem to want others to be perfect and the way I want and criticise them in my mind for being imperfect even though I am about the least perfect person around.

I feel bad just thinking about it, and it gives me stress because I know that I cannot control my entire life but I keep trying to for some reason.

Sep 01, 2005, 04:24AM PDT | 3 cheers


Comments:

Lilygirl

Control problems...

I really shouldn’t advise anyone on this but it seems to me (I have three seriously controlling family members) that those who try to control everyone lack trust in others. My niece cannot trust me to feed her dogs although I have 3 of my own. My best friend cannot trust me to cook her dinner although she tells others that I am the best cook she knows. It’s a matter of trust. They fear that I will not do these things “their way”. They don’t trust themselves to be able to cope if we don’t. Just a thought. Lily

Sep 11, 2005, 04:53PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

Rib

Control--argh!

I agree with your thoughts on this. I tend to be the person who tries to control everything. I always keep thinking, “well if I do it myself, I know it’ll be done and it will be done the way I want it done.” I then proceed to try and do everything, all the while resenting that I’m the one who always has to do everything! And you are right, I’m afraid that I won’t be able to cope if it isn’t done the way I “need” it to be done. I definitly need to stop this!

Dec 07, 2005, 11:56AM PST | Respond to this


 

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