Hi Brianna. Thanks for the blonde hair tip. I was wondering if that was true of other AU’ers! I heard from another that they, too, grew litle blonde hairs. Good to know.

1. he fears that you’ll not find him attractive
2. he fears his hair coming back
3. he fears his hair never coming back

You seem to have pegged it—he’s still (understandably) struggling with accpeting his self image with Alopecia Universalis. You’re supportive of him and obviously find him attractive and there’s not much more you can do to convince him that he looks great.

I suspect that folks who get AU at a younger age may have a more difficult time with it in a way. In my case, I got full blown AU around 29/30. That was 8 years ago. But I went through adolescence, puberty and all that as a normal genetic kid. I can imagine that skipping the hair part(s) of that while everyone around you grows up could be difficult. In my case, I’ve had a full beard and such—been there done that. So, I don’t feel like I missed out.

I don’t know if that helps much, but my gut instinct tells me that he may have insecurities based around losing his hair during the transition from adolescene to adulthood. If that doesn’t sound right it may be time to call in Dr. Phil.

Self image is a tough one because it’s a battle mostly waged in our own head. It sounds like you’re doing as much as you can. The rest is up to him.

t i always think ill never get a boyfriend bcoz of my illness but the fact tat u r wit him n dont care bout it at all really inspires me tnks a mil xxx