2 months ago, after a 6 year relationship that was heading toward marriage, he decided he didn’t want to do the things I was asking him (for example: get a steady job, go back to school and finish his degree, give me us time, get health insurance, be able to save money so we could have a safety net). He was too “young” for all these things (he’s 25). So he left to find someone less demanding. And he found a twenty year old chick who has a kid and no future but the one her parents will buy her.
So there’s the back story. Why, since I can see that he is not the man for me and is a giant loser, why can’t I get my mind off of him? Why could he mourn a lost IPod longer than he mourned our 6 year relationship?
Why can’t I stop thinking about him and checking his MySpace page? I blocked him from my page, set his email to junk email in all of my accounts, and even set his ringer on my cell phone to silent. He cannot contact me no matter what but he doesn’t want to. And I don’t want to contact him but I do want him out of my head.
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Working on it
Hi! It’s been about 4 months since I broke up with my guy and I’ll tell you the truth- I still think about him. My best friend broke up with her guy a year ago and she still thinks about him. But you do other things. I don’t think about him all the time now. I think about him a lot.
I have noticed a few things help. Working out. Shopping. Going out with the girls. Doing extra work at work. Really, I’m restarting old friendships, getting in shape, getting a better wardrobe, and will probably be getting a raise this month.
I have discovered that I want to use this time to look at my life and change the things I want to change. I have to accept how he is changing (for the worse- I have heard lots of bad things, not deadly bad but super sucky).
I still think about seeing him around and showing him how fabulous I am without him but now it’s not a goal. I want to be fabulous for me.
Wow, this is long. But I wanted to tell you all of it. Sorry about getting back to you so late, it’s hard fitting all my new things into my schedule!
