Alternative labeling – such as “dominance” and “submissive” – only became necessary when men stopped acting like men and started trying to please women by becoming more feminine. Before the age of political correctness, it was generally understood that men behaved one way and women another…
...For millennia, women have sought out men able to protect them… In reality, at some point, most women want a man to behave like a man…
..It is not that women relish pain and most certainly not cruelty. Rather it is that they respect strength – especially when coupled with honor and honesty. Along with things such as diligence and thoughtfulness – the combination creates a man with whom a woman can form a lasting and fruitful bond
This site seems to explain, in some cases, the kind of relationship I think men and women should have, when married. I also appreciate that it does acknowledge alternative lifestyles, although those lifestyles aren’t the focus of the site.

