So I go to visit my cousins out of town, just like I always do in the summer. This time though not just one cousin, one great aunt and a few toddlers were there, they had a brunch with they very large brood in attendance. Think like 30 people with mother father, kids, their kids and some i think even their kids. So they have a family rule that the kids can only sit at the big formal table if they are married.
So there were 4 of the unweds and me, I have nearly a decade on the nearly married couple who sat at the big formal table. And the same decade goes for the kids at the not married table. So, at what point do I get to sit at the formal table with the adults?
I mean really, my brunch conversation consitted of sly snickers about pot smoking days and last nights shooter escapades. I mean give me a break. I am an educated grown up, do I really need to sit with the barely legal children because I am unwed?
So I plan never to get married hook up or whatever. I wonder when I can graduate to the formal table sans husband. Or will I forever be cutting the chicken for my cousins babies?
Help people to understand why I do not NEED a romantic relationship to have a happy and successful life, then show them that they can do the same AND that they should LOVE themselves NOT CHANGE themselves to satisfy the wants of another human being (read all 4 entries…)
Ok here's a question
18 months ago
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If only it were so easy
No I couldn’‘t. It’s a very patriarchal family with the head, my great uncle still around and calling the shots. He would never go for an unwed gal sitting at th adults table. I mean, he’s been hosting dinners at that table for 60 years, he’s not about to change his rules now. Heaven forbid the modern world enter his home.
pcyclepath is making progress :)
Sorry didn’t realize the extend of the problem at first, how difficult it must be. I really admire you for putting so much effort to keep the relationship with your extended family going.
