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Curlychaos SoapDragon is congratulating the U.S!

Let my soulmate find me. And focus on having a great life on my own in the meantime. (read all 59 entries…)

Hmm 5 months ago

I met the cellist yesterday. And he said I deserve an explanation for why he`s acting a bit weird, so he told me quite a bit more about what it is he`s struggling with. It has to do with his ex, but it seems very clear from what he said that it is about things he needs to get over, he`s not thinking of getting back together with her or anything like that.
His behavior certainly makes a lot more sense to me now, and I do understand his issues. And he said that he likes me a lot, but things are so chaotic that he hasn`t been able to figure out if he sees this as something with potential for being more than friends.

It is good to know what is going on, I was thinking he was maybe trying to get back together with his ex while meeting me at the same time or something. Also, he said he has been so busy these past months he hasn`t had time or energy to think things through, so he hopes that a few weeks of summer holiday coming up now will help.
In a way, this does sound a bit hopeful, he does like me, and at some point he`ll get over his issues from the past I`m sure. But on the other hand, that might take a really long time. And when he is over his issues, he might decide he sees us as just friends. Sigh.

Jul 05, 03:03AM PDT | 13 cheers

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Todelou got to much time but too little motivation

You're absolutely right

Not thinking about him and kind of “move one” when it is not even certain is so hard! It is the first guy I’ve truly liked since my x. Didn’t think that it was possible to feel this way again, which leads me to the fact that I am so afraid of getting hurt, again. So I have to try to think about it as little as possible. I’m glad though that someone can understand what it’s like going trough :)

Jul 05, 05:12AM PDT | Parent | Respond to this 3 cheers

Curlychaos SoapDragon is congratulating the U.S!

It really is

seriously hard! I keep thinking that I should stop focusing on this guy so much, just give him time, be open to meeting other people, and if he gets over his issues and wants our relationship to develop into more than friends and I`m still single at that point, great. If not, we`ll just be great friends.
But then the fact that I like him so much gets in the way of my excellent theories on how to do this… It feels quite impossible to not think much about him and be really open to other possibilities, since I just like him so much. But I guess I`ll just have to try.
But I`m glad someone understands what I`m going through too! :)

Jul 06, 07:09AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

wren is mega mighty!!!

Here's something my therapist told me

that I think is incredibly insightful and absolutely true:

The person who is the least vested in a relationship is the person who holds the power.

Take that knowledge and do with it what you will…

Jul 06, 07:30AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

Friede passed another test and is trying not to cough up a lung.

That

is a very spooky insight.

Jul 06, 08:14AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

wren is mega mighty!!!

spooky?

Do you think?

I think it is sort of freeing.

Jul 06, 12:44PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

I don`t - Curlychaos SoapDragon

well - Friede

Ah, okay, - wren

HippieChick is . . .

This is very true

I am really happy in my marriage. We have a good and mutually satisfying relationship and we are both pretty vested in our relationship; however, I wish someone would have told me exactly what your therapist said to you in my relationship prior to meeting my husband.

There would have maybe (well if you could have gotten through to me) a whole lot less bullshit and heartache.

Your therapist speaks the truth!!!

Jul 08, 08:08AM PDT | Respond to this 3 cheers