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naughtychimp is a Travelling Money Managing Extrovert

I'm working on my tendency to get "emotionally hijacked" (read all 2 entries…)

Okay, as mentioned in the past, I am a girl with strong, passionate feelings. Nothing wrong with that.

But, too often, I feel “Hijacked” by my emotions. For example, rather than getting scared and just allowing myself to “feel the fear but do it anyway”, I will get paralyzed and not be able to function. Or, when I get upset by someone I won’t be able to react in a rational manner so I’ll bury and bury and bury and then one day explode about a relatively minor matter.

I have an IQ of 162; I’d like to have a more comfortable balance between my rational and emotional self. So, I want to really try to set myself some goals and continue to work – hard! – on getting over this issue. It’s good to have feelings and to use them to help guide our lives. It’s bad to let feelings determine how we live and act to the point where it hurts us.

If any of you have any ideas on exercises I can do to help with this, feel free to leave them in my comments section…

Jan 08, 2008, 11:28AM PST | 15 cheers

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Raven I've got to get away

“when I get upset by someone I won’t be able to react in a rational manner so I’ll bury and bury and bury and then one day explode about a relatively minor matter.”

1. When you start to get upset by someone – pause – you have an IQ of 162 – your pause will occur so quickly, it will be barely noticable – then smile. There is always something about a smile. It is a delaying tactic.

2. And then agree – Ok yea, – then let me think about that – a gentle push back that does two things. It gives you a second to determine and reasonable negotiated compromise and it puts you in the drivers seat.

3. Then you can either say something like “let me see if I can clear a place in my schedule” or “that may delay project X but let me see if I can work something out”

The key is be cooperative and happy. Be in control. Never ne completely available to anyone – your time is valuable.

You naughty chimp!

Jul 08, 2008, 10:13PM PDT | Respond to this 3 cheers

naughtychimp is a Travelling Money Managing Extrovert

Wow - thank you!

That’s really helpful and gives me something to think about.

Jul 09, 2008, 05:04PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Raven I've got to get away

Not think . . .

DO. Just do . . .

Trust me . . . If you start thinking about it, you’ll be thinking about it for a year.

I’ve been there. Ooops. I’m still there . . . still thinking about it.

Really, you’re a sweet adorable chimp, people will like the change.

Jul 09, 2008, 09:23PM PDT | Respond to this 3 cheers

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Wow - thank you!

Not think . . .

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