“The problem with sex – for straight women, anyway – is that it can so easily lead to relationships…..” (D7)

I think you are right, but I believe that is because too many women confuse lust with love. They think that if they’re having sex with someone it “must be love.” Au contraire! I learned about and made that distinction in my 20’s….it was quite a revelation. I thought I was in love with this guy because we had this incredibly powerful, passionate sexual relationship. After we’d been spending time together for a few months I realized I absolutely was not in love with him…in fact outside of our sexual relationship he actually drove me nuts; he was insecure, arrogant and more than a bit obtuse. But I KNEW for a fact, it was pure unadulterated lust, and as such “recreational sex” and that was OK with me. When he started thinking it was more than that, that’s when I had to end it. That relationship taught me a very valuable lesson about my own sexual nature, and how to make that distinction between lust and the desire for recreational sex, and the sexual, more intimate bond with men I truly love/am in love with. At this point in my life I just want the uncomplicated bliss of a relationship purely based on lust and purely recreational. I am not willing right now to do all the work that comes with “relationship”. I will be again, someday; I was a good partner to my recent ex. (Just because I was dumped, doesn’t mean I am disposable…..at the risk of sounding arrogant myself, I know my worth despite some recent blows to my self esteem and confidence. Everybody keeps saying to me that his is the greater loss. I am inclined to agree with them…..he possessed many good qualites, alas, maturity was not one of them, and that part of him I will not miss, ever.)I’ll be a good partner to another one day, and I look forward to that, but not right now. No “relationships” right now! Just some straight up, no holds barred shaggin’, sister!! Bring it on!! Gotta go…my arms killing me…........