I’ve been feeling pretty low these last few days, probably the reason I haven’t posted much.
I know the reason, I just don’t know what to do about it.
I have an online friend who is very dear to me…unfortunately he has been facing some major problems over the last two years. His problems fall within an area which I am qualified to help and have quite a lot of experience in.
I’ve been trying to help him since the outset. And spending hours chatting about his problems, at least four evenings a week. I’ve come up with every possible solution I can think of, and done lots of research to ensure I’m not missing something, or not up to date.
I’ve presented the solutions in a whole variety of ways.
Yet, he has not taken even one tiny step to reslove the problems, and of course, as time passes the problems are growing and becoming more complex.

In many ways I understand his reluctance, for to address these problems he must do several difficult things.
– make some decisions
– make some significant changes to his lifestyle
– commit to putting the necessary time, effort and money into the solution.
All of the above can be hard for people to do.

But, this last week, it’s become obvious he hasn’t done any of these things. Not one step forward:(
And still we circle the problems again and again:(
I feel like a magician…and he’s waiting for me to pull the rabbit out of the hat. I feel he’s waiting for me to come up with an EASY solution. I wish I could, but addressing his problems will be difficult, and I can’t make it otherwise:(

I feel exasperated and deflated. And I’m dreading our next chat.