The photos thing I can definitely relate to. It’s not an issue that has ever actually come up (as in, I actually brought it up), but with my first love, I was on his computer, getting some of my files, and I saw a folder labeled [hisname]and[hisex’sname], so naturally, I got curious and looked. It was just a folder of about fifty pictures of them being cute and couply. Of course, I was hurt and annoyed and jealous because he had broke up with his ex almost a year before dating me. I talked to one of my friends about it, and my friend gave me some really good advice. He told me that a lot of people still have photos of their past relationships, and he also pointed out that I did too. He asked if I looked at him everyday feeling nostalgic or even desire to be with the people in my past. I said no, I just like to have the pictures to remember that these things happened. My friend then told me that that was probably the case with him too. So keeping that in mind, I don’t fault people for having pictures of their exes anymore, because I myself am guilty of it (although I don’t have pictures of me kissing my ex on my facebook either). With my current boyfriend, he was never a picture taker, and the ones he does have (and all other knick knacks relating to his ex) are kept in a box away from sight.
One thing that’s been helping me get through this is remembering that it was in the past, and everything that he’s done with his exes, he did before knowing me. And it’s unfair to be mad at people for their actions in the past when they had nothing to do with you at the time. I know I don’t like it when he brings up some sketchy things I’ve done in my past, so I’m making it a point not to bring up his. I think in the end, it just makes up both unhappy because there’s nothing he can do to change his past, and by being with him, I just need to accept that and love him for who he is and what he does now.
I’m glad you’re happy now though. I hope things work out with you and your boyfriend. It’s just really nice to see I’m not alone with this problem.