Kalibebti loves it all : )
routine conversation with a friend you’re still learning about and had him disclose he’s been through an unspeakable tragedy?
What can you say? Is there anything to say beyond, “I’m sorry to hear that happened” ?
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It can feel awkward and scary, not knowing how to respond. I think that when a person discloses something that personal though, they already know there aren’t a lot of ways to respond to it, and are just looking for someone to listen and be accepting.
Nerds’ response actually reminded me – when I was working at a grocery store, this lady I was helping told me that she was shopping alone for the first time, because her husband had died, and started crying. It was so incredibly sad and confusing, I just stood there with my mouth opening and closing, and finally said “I’m so sorry”.
But then, I did the same thing at a pharmacy when my mom died. They were like “Oh, we hope this clears up your headache,” and I was like, “OMG, I was supposed to be on vacation, but my mom died yesterday and my husband has food poisoning, and it’s my birthday, and I have a cold!” and they reacted pretty much exactly the same way… but it was healing to have someone listen to me and say even the smallest kind word.
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at the Greyhound station. She had been sitting across the aisle from me for the last several hours.
At the depot, we all got off for a short food and bathroom break. I started chatting with her.
She wasn’t getting back on, she was waiting for her daughter to come pick her up.
Turns out one of her daughters was battling breast cancer, and the other one colon cancer. This lady was basically going from one daughter to the other, visiting.
She started off all courageous, but it was easy to see how scared she was. The one daughter wasn’t doing so well.
I think I was the one to start crying a little, and she broke down. I hugged her close and we both started crying. I didn’t know what else I could offer, and I wish I had some real hope to give her.
I wanted to stay till her daughter came, but the bus was leaving, so I had to go. I feel terrible leaving her there alone, crying. I hope her daughter came quickly.
I often think about her, and wonder how everyone is doing.
It makes me think of the R.E.M video “everbody hurts”, because we are all going somewhere, we are all in the middle of something, and hopefully, we’re not alone.
I would wonder what happened to her, and to her daughters as well. I’m sure it meant a lot to her to run into someone like you, and for you to hurt and mourn along side her, even for just a moment.
I love that song. I haven’t listened to it since I was a teenager, but you made me want to listen to it again today, and I actually saw the video just now for the first time. A tearjerker for sure, but really good!
Kalibebti loves it all : )
at that moment. People really are mostly very kind.
I am sure that lady in the grocery store must have felt better for telling you, even if she was crying….
createkg wants to Lose 30 pounds
be more patient
Share a night under the stars
Lose Weight and Get Healthy
Run around town in a bear suit
learn to play bass guitar
visit every MLB stadium
write music
watch the IMDB.com Top 100 movies
play the game halo online
make a free layout for my imvu home page
Lolly wants to get rid of things I don't need
financial independence
Appreciate people for who they are
lose 20 lbs
Read every Far Side Comic Strip
stop procrastinating
hotwire a car
lose weight
meditate daily
be more outgoing
celebrate my benign schizophrenia
Buy a House
Clean out my closet.
