dwlt

remember exactly what my mum's voice sounds like (read all 3 entries…)

Feels so bad  — 3 years ago

I’m not sure how I’ll achieve this goal. It’s just turned five years since she died (in fact, tomorrow will be exactly five years since her funeral), and I only have a fleeting memory of her voice. I find that very upsetting.

Providing some comfort is the fact that I at least remember her last words to me.

Jun 27, 2005, 10:30AM PDT 27 cheers

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Jun 27, 2005, 11:04AM PDT

dwlt

Thank you

You’re right, and you made me smile.

Jun 27, 2005, 11:15AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

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Aug 12, 2006, 07:04AM PDT

dwlt

I am okay. :-)

I hope you are too – I’m sorry for your losses.

When it’s close to her birthday or Christmas, I’ll often see something that would be perfect for her. Seems sort of silly, but it usually makes me smile to think of her reaction.

Aug 12, 2006, 03:18PM PDT | Respond to this 4 cheers

A Well-Read Dog Head is standing right behind you

Sorry for your loss

I’m glad you got to know your mom. You’ll remember her voice crystal clear, like misswa said, when you’re not expecting it.

Jun 27, 2005, 05:33PM PDT | Respond to this

welkin25

sigh. my sympathies. i need to spend more time talking to my mom. thank you.

Aug 03, 2005, 08:23PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

dwlt

Thanks

You definitely should do that.

Aug 04, 2005, 03:32AM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

Kim N feels indepeneedy

My sympathies, dwlt. It’s been 10 years since my Mom died. I don’t remember her voice at all on a regular basis, but it’s like sara and terrierhead said: sometimes I hear her. I also see her in my mirror when I look closely. :)

Aug 04, 2005, 05:05AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

dwlt

1 Thing I Like About 43 Things...

...is the capacity for people to make me smile, and generally feel better about things. Thanks, Kim :-)

Aug 04, 2005, 05:58AM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

Deni H

Something you may want to consider...

I haven’t lost my mother yet, but I would imagine it would be a loss that would best be described “beyone extreme” since she is my “best friend of all time.” And, I know that it could happen at any time, too. My college friend who I’m going to the wedding with this weekend, she lost her mother about 4 to 6 weeks ago and this friend is my age. So, that being said, I plan to start writing down memories of her in a special journal. I think I’ll also get her to write down some content on selected topics.

So, if you begin journalling your favorite memories of her and even the mundane ones, then you’ll begin to have a more vivid memory of your mother’s life I’m sure. Just give yourself some time and patience.

I’ll be pulling for you on this goal, and when I get more cheers to use…this will be the first one I cheer. I hope that you have a good weekend.

Aug 04, 2005, 05:16AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

dwlt

I like that idea

Thanks for your support. Perhaps, with a little coaxing, I could post some of the memories against this goal.

I hope you and your friend have a great weekend.

PS Thanks for the cheer as well.

Aug 04, 2005, 06:06AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

Flangerella-roo is eating her daily brown rice and wondering why she isn't losing weight and feeling contemplative

memories

my mum died this year and i will be eternally grateful that my other half got me a video camera for christmas and have footage of my mum opening presents and saying she was enjoying hospital for the first time in months.

I cant watch it all the way through yet but i will.

Some memories of my mum as a kid:-

skipping up the road arm in arm with my dad swinging her handbag

her face when she was at a local meadary “playing silly buggers” (table netball) with a screwed up napkin, and it landing in someones pint

now your turn…

Aug 14, 2005, 12:27PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

dwlt

My turn

Firstly, you have my sympathies on your mum, and I can quite believe you will always be thankful for the viceo camera.

OK, a couple of memories:

  • When I was about 3 or 4, my mum decided it would be fun for me to make a tape of me singing nursery rhymes for my dad (I was a renowned nursery rhyme singer in those days). My first words into the mic were “Daddy, can you hear me?” I also liked to start fairy tales (yes, I was a singer/storyteller in my early years) with the phrase “Aponce a time…”, thus beginning my love of making words up :-) In fact, I wonder if that tape still exists? My brother and I are about to start going through a lot of her things (we put a lot of mementos and such in storage), so I will be keeping an eye out for tapes now.
  • Another one is of us laughing really, really hard when she was telling me the story of my then 4-year-old aunt talking to and offering fish fingers to the clothes poles in their back garden.

Hmm. I guess those stories may go someway toward explaining my twisted sense of humour and sometimes skew-whiff behaviour!

Aug 14, 2005, 12:56PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

Flangerella-roo is eating her daily brown rice and wondering why she isn't losing weight and feeling contemplative

ahhh we should have done a duet!

mum did a similar recording i can still remember the chunky microphone and the tape counter turning round…

“little jack orner sat inder corner ee-har istmus pie, he put in his thumm and pulled outta PUM!

(squeeks and giggles off stage)

and said watta goodboy ad eye!!”

this was followed by applause…arh i was only three

there was another song about “angie’s potty” but thats another story…

Aug 21, 2005, 02:54PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Mums! - EnJayBee

Des - the hurrier I go, the behinder I get

What is...

...”skew-whiff behaviour”?

Dec 26, 2005, 04:24PM PST | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

Off-kilter - dwlt

Maggie the cat needs a full-time library or information-related job now now NOW.

Wow,

I’m sorry about your mom….feel better.

Nov 16, 2005, 02:57PM PST | Thread | Respond to this

dwlt

Belated

Thanks Maggie. :-)

Jun 08, 2006, 12:28PM PDT | Respond to this 3 cheers

PattyTrish is wrapping up paperwork for practicum and job that are ending....

I just came across your goal

and am very touched by it. I hope you have many moments of remembrance that honor your Mom and your love for her.

Pat

Jun 08, 2006, 11:51AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

dwlt

Thanks

I do. :-)

Jun 08, 2006, 12:26PM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

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Jun 08, 2006, 11:59AM PDT

dwlt

You’re welcome. :-)

Jun 08, 2006, 12:27PM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers


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