I too wanted a natural birth, researched it and started to plan it. However, it was then discovered I have a narrow pelvis, and my son did not engage (it turned out he was breech). When I then started losing weight, the consultant suggested a cesarian, and because they thought ahead I was able to stay awake during the operation. The operation took place on a Saturday evening, at 6pm, so anyone suggesting it was for the staff’s convenience is certainly wrong! They had to get in an anaesthistis especially, for the epidural, as they were so keen to support my wish to stay awake while still ensuring the baby’s health. Thankfully, R was born healthy and a good 8lb – my family, because of our petite size! – tend to have smaller babies, so I did well!
So then to my second son. I was still hopeful that with care I might be able to have a natural birth this time. The consultant, a lovely understanding man explained that with the combination of my pelvis and the weight of D it might be a serious risk. I still felt so sad to have to have one – but I am so very glad I did not stand on some political point or put my own wishes first, because when he was born, D had the cord wrapped around his neck twice. When I said to the nurse how sad I felt not to have had a natural birth, she pointed out that D might not have survived the journey down the birth canal, because of the cord.
While it is perfectly understandable to want a natural birth, do please think over very carefully any advice the doctor says. That is, not be frightened into having an unneccessary cesarian, I can certainly understand that would be upsetting, but at the same time, if he/she is saying that there are real, do take time to make the right decision and not be pressured by others – it is a decision which involves you and your baby.
Of course, you might well have a wonderul wide pelvis, and no complications. Whatever happens, the most important thing isnt trying to win some battle, or even – I must say – to try to arrange a wonderful birth experience for you to look back on. That is lovely if it is achieved, and can certainly be an aim – but by far, without doubt, the primary concern needs to be the health of yourself and the baby.
