I am 33 years old and I have 3 children. This is my second marriage. (the first didn’t count on the count of him being a real jerkhead) but anyway…My husband loves me just the way I am (so he says) but I am very uncomfortable. I have gained about 15lbs since we’ve been married and its only been a year and a half. I get tired when we make love and I try not to let him know it but it has affected that portion of our lives immensely because, we’ve went from 5 days a week to (maybe) 2 or 3. Not to mention with him doing most of the work. I have decided (weekly) that I want to lose weight and for some reason its just not working. I am so depressed but I don’t let it consume me and he doesn’t even know that I’m depressed because I joke about it. This 5’4 body can’t handle all of this 176lb weight. What should I do and is losing 30lbs in 2 to 3 months a reachable goal if I put my mind to it…really put my mind to it? Please helllllllpppppp!

Are you taking medication for your thyroid problem? I have only a minor thyroid problem, and the medication makes a world of difference. It doesn’t make the fat just melt away, of course, but it helps give me the energy to be more active, plan meals, etc.

It sounds like you are having some self-esteem issues as well. I think working on those will help you with the weight-loss. You can’t say “I’ll love myself when I’m thin” because you’re going to have a hell of a time losing weight if you hate yourself. Even with sex, it might be your husband, but it might also be that you repulse yourself too much…..

good luck!