I was surprised so few people want to be slow to anger when I feel it is the key to accomplishing so many other positive things for instance being a better listener. I have not mastered this however. HOWEVER IT IS POSSIBLE TO DO ANYTHING WE CHOOSE IF WE WANT TO..

Anger is such a powerful weapon, and one that many times, we dont fully understand the damage it causes. I myself am BAD in this department. I am by nature such a loving, caring person, but seem to have an extremely fiery side that (as you stated above), can, and does hurt people sometimes. The worst part is, is that many times its the people we love most that get to experience this side of us. That is what I do not like about anger. For me, the anger is usually controllable, except when I am drinking. The same situation can happen when im sober, or when i’ve been drinking, but the fuse is MUCH shorter after a few drinks. Still, I constantly try to contain and control those emotions. I have noticed, its not easy, at all, and does take MUCH work. I find that I can train myself to ignore things that would normally make me angry and be ok for a while, but those feelings slip back in so subltely and unnoticed, that all of a sudden, you find yourself back to where you were. It seriously takes constant diligince and work to remind yourself to not be that way. I find that once I get on a roll of being calm, just try to stick with it. Always try to remember, the consequences of getting angry are much worse than the effort we put forth to remain calm.