I’ve been very fortunate this year to have reconnected with a very dear friend, without whom I probably would have gone utterly insane. But he lives hours away. It sure would be nice to have him closer.

We’re not hiding…Just let me know when you plan on destroying World and Warcraft…I’ll come a running :)

American TV was the cancer to the soul.

Hmm, maybe its the loneliness that makes one watch TV and…well, next thing you know Bob is your fathers brother and you have a serious case of soul cancer.

to be a common goal for many.

I certainly aim to find myself in the right place, certain poisonous metaphorical matter of the universe notwithstanding.

There ought to be web directories for people with actual things to offer.

Partly, things seem to devolve simply from the validity of one’s own approach.

What I’m able to say isn’t the language of common experience, e.g. specific writings or works of art won’t validate the life for artists or writers.

I’m stuck in myself, which isn’t existential (even in a modern sense, if anyone holds this as valid) unless I fulfill the existential role.

Accepting life as something apart from experience-for-itself then leads to a view within which identity has value only in relation to objects or by extension other’s objects. The alternative is to accept a moral agenda or pragmatics apart from neediness.

Zen saying of the moment:

Its not always certain what to say when everyone is frustrated.

I find the best way to find like-minded and similar people is to be myself as fully as I can with others. I.e. not hid my true colors.

When we do this, others will see us and be drawn to us for who we really are.

I used to (and sometimes fall back into…) being afraid to fully be myself with people because I’m quirky or am afraid others will find that unappealing, and not accept me.

At a certain moment in maturing we realize it is SOOO much better to be ourselves and untrap our souls, than…

to be what we imagine others might want us to be and choose pleasing them over freeing our souls.

Thought it was worth a moment’s reflection.

EmergingC

I think if anyone knew the answer to this they’d share it with everybody (at least I hope they would).

My strategy so far has been to ramble around as haphazzardly as I can, doing what makes me happy and speaking with whomever I choose. I’ve got about a 12% success rate so far, though, so you might want to try something different.

Anyway, good luck.

There are a few of us in this world who are very comfortable with who we are as individuals and don’t need to fit into social norms (not that we are antisocial or cinics, quite the contrary in most cases). That is not to say that we are necessarily like each other in any way but the isolation we feel. We usually get along with most people, but because of the way we are, we can feel alone in even the biggest crowds. Sometimes we simply want someone who understands us and the way we act and think. We just want to find someone who can cut through the isolation we feel in our minds and hearts. Good luck to all those out there looking for their kindred spirit.

From reading your to-do list you seem like a kind and peace loving person. Ever consider volunteering at a hospital or something like that? You would meet others who want to do good and make a difference in someone else’s life. And not to be too forward, but looking at your photo, you have celebrity-like good looks. I mean, you’re gorgeous! Anywhere you go, I would imagine all the guys are ineerested in talking to you.