its bin two and a half weeks since me and my boyfriend and first love broke up. We’d been together for 13 months and im finding it really difficult. Am quite down most of the time feel so alone and un-able to rely on him. I ended it because he had a complete lack of confidence in our relationship and began making no effort with me. He moved recently to Sheffield and of course made various promises we would make it through this. Two weeks after out first anniversary he cheated on me. It was only a kiss but guess that confirmed all my worries and I had no choice but to get out. Unfortunatly he’s now handling it brilliantly and I’m still clinging on to all my memories. People keep saying it’s not possible for us to be friends,including him,are they right?
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im so sorry, thats such a horrible position to be in. i know it was hard but i think you made the right choice. deep down im sure hes not doing very well at all, its just guys tend to push away any feelings they may have…thus they look perfectaly okay when you feel like shit. i guess in my own case, i feel like hopefully in the future we will be able to be friends again, even though he wont even look at me. so i think that there is a possiblilty that you can be friends with your ex, just give it time.
I really hope so you know,I could cope if I knew he was hurting,thats what makes it so difficult. I hope in time you and your ex can be friend too. These things only make us stronger hey?Im hoping the next time Im hurt I can deal with it better, problem is the only guy i want to ever be with is him. Its been months now,and moving on is seeming more impossible, but im thinking of him less,dreaming of him less,thats got to be a positive?Hope your doing ok and thank you for comment.
Maybe in a few years time, but its impossible to be friends with someone while you still have strong feelings for them. It only means that you cling on to the idea that if you become good enough friends you may get back together…..which rarely happens….and when it does usually ends up in disaster. I don’t mean to be cynical…but realisticly you should give yourself time apart from eachother for at least 5/6 months…otherwise you are making it impossible for yourself to move on
