Every so often I’ve entertained the idea of having a threesome with the boyfriend. Recently it’s been brought to our attention that an aquaintance is interested in having one herself. I agree with my boyfriend that since we’re both still in that college/grad school phase, this is the best time to really have fun.
However curious and interested I am about threesomes, I have some reservations. We’re in a very small college town setting where everyone knows everything. I’m concerned about how exactly we would go about approaching this girl. I don’t imagine going up to her “Hey, how’s it going, so I heard you want to have a threesome.” I’m also concerned about setting any “rules” for a threesome between me and my boyfriend…penetration or no, and things of the like, as well as any positive and negative impacts it could have on our relationship.
Any feedback would be greatly helpful. Thanks.
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Considering...
My wife and I have been back and forth about this. In some ways, i think it is better to keep it a fantasy. I think you run the risk of emotions getting in the way an donce that door is open, it cannot be closed. However, only you know your relationship and what it can and cannot deal with. If you both are into it strictly for the physical pleasure and the experience, than go for it. Just make sure all parties involved understand the rules. Especially that everything stops at once if you are in the action and anyone gets uncomfortable. Good Luck!
P.S. We have not been in a threesome, but we do still talk about it, so one never knows…
go for it
I want to tell you its the BEST. I fantasize about it all the time. But in reality I think certain things must be true. I did it but it didn’t work so well. She was not really into girls. She just wanted my bf. So my recommendation is make sure she is into girls too. And I think this is only possible if you are not planning to be in a long term relationship with your bf/husband. I still want to do it but not with my bf b/c it kills me to see him with someone else. But I still want it. I am in a predictament. So do it only if you’re not serious in your current relationship.
I’d have to say that it depends on where you are in your relationship – but go for it.
My suggestion on approach would be for you – the female to make an advance on the girl and tell her that you and bf find her attractive and were wondering if she would be interested in a threesome.
I would actually then set the ground rules between all of you – not just you and BF.
I would also suggest that if you are concerned about the future impact that you discuss what they could be and let him know that if you react this way its because blah blah.
Like if I appear to be jealous its just because of my own self esteem issues.
I’d also suggest making a rule that he and she can’t see each other without you there if there is any chance you will start to feel that he doesn’t want to be with you because of his relationship with her.
The other thing you have to ask is will it ever come up that you should try MFM 3some and how are you both with that?
Best of luck. But I say worth doing at least once in your lifetime and if it impacts the relationship negatively – the relationship wasn’t strong enough anyway.
P.S i forgot to answer...
Jimmy,
I was answering having already been there, what seems now like many years ago, about 10 now it seems. I would have to say that I was not secure in my relationship back then, but even so am happy to have had the experience, even with being left aside on the subsequent occasions and having had them get together without me.
Now totally secure in my relationship I would be cool with it, just that the kids might make it hard these days LOL!
The problem is too many people mistake sex for love. The rules I was talking about wasn’t for the act itself but for way it is approached. You have to be cool with how it is going to impact your initial relationship to get into the craziness I reckon.
I agree…go for it!
I have done this with my wife, yes wife with both a mmf and mff situation to even the playing field. I was not jealous at all watch her with him, and I admit that he was somewhat larger. I got pleasure from seeing her enjoy something new and we both really liked having the opportunity to share in something that we love “sex”. She was not jealous when her friend joined us for our mff session and there were rules that were followed. It was interesting because everybody allowed their guard to be relaxed and enjoyed the physical pleasure to just happen.
