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3 years ago
How do I explain to my friends that this isn’t bad?
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You dont.
They will not understand it. But you don’t just live with it either. Please trust me when I say there are so many better alternatives. I’ve been there and I know how hard it is, but the hardest step is the first one. Let someone know you have a problem. You need to be accountable to someone in order to change. I know it seems easier and more comforting to cut. It’s a trick our minds play on us.
But, it’s just like a drug, and soon your life will be revolving around it.
There is so much more to life. And there are wonderful people out there that can help. You will not grow until you can get past that and realize how strong you really are.
Look at the other things you want to do with your life. Are they worth trading for cutting?
I need help.
Well, you seem rpetty smart so i’m going to ask you. I try my hardest not to cut, i hate they way my mom yells and screams at me when i do it, it just makes me even more hurt. I tell myself i’ll never do it again but i just can’t stop. I’m only 13, i don’t want scares up and down my arms for the rest of my life. I don’t want to be judged upon like that. I relaly need your help. I’ve already carved a J in my leg to remind me that my father is still out there hurting younger girls and i can’t help any of it. No one seems to understand how much pain i’m in, so i hide it. I decided to try cutting my legs, but then i realized i play basketball, and what about gym class. I was screwed. I really need someone to talk to, so please help.
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hi, please let me help you find some help…let me know where you are from. I am a social worker…im young and have had many hard situations including a very abusive relationship…I know I do not understand but if you talk with me I will find you help close by and I will talk with you as much as you need. You are special!!! :) just know that!
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For me cutting is a way to distract from the pains of life The only times I’ve managed to stop I’ve had to find other ways of deadening those pains i.e. drugs, alcohol ect…
Right now I’m averaging about 2 cases of beer and 2-3 liters of various hard liquors a week, mostly on the weekends. I don’t think that’s over the top but its probably more than is healthy.
I don’t know that stopping cutting has been good for me. I may have fewer scars but I seem to be doing a lot more damage other ways.
I get what you are saying. Cutting helps me SOO much. I mean it makes me feel so great. I havn’t yet tried drugs, but me and my friend are working on getting high. But, drinking could lead to a seriosur problem. So.. I’m not sure. Try talking to someone. That always helps me.
don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying do drugs or go off the deep-end. I’m just saying for me those replaced my cutting habit for a time.
Drugs…well I haven’t done anything there in a long time and I’m proud of it. I went through withdrawals last time and it wasn’t pretty.
Basically I’m saying that if there is a solution I haven’t found it yet.
I’ve spent 2 of the past 3 years in therapy. I’ve been on various anti depressants and anti anxiety drugs. Nothing helps. Maybe that’s why I’m pouring out my soul here.
I’ve been dealing with depression since I was a child, lets say the better part of 20 years. My last therapist said he believe that its an ingrained part of my personality by this point and that it might not be something I can change
Yeah, I understand. I don’t think I want to go to any other exreems. I just got a therapist today, so maybe it will help. Who knows. Three years you’ve been doing this? Oh gosh, I’ve only begun this process. I ahve a question. How do you hide the scars? Like three years, you must have alot.
My scars are mostly on my upper arms. A regular t-shit hides them. Needless to say I avoid activities that require me to go without one, like swimming. And I think you misunderstood. I started therapy about 3 years ago (I was forced into it), but I’ve been cutting for about 10 or 11 now. Yes, I have a lot of scars.
a lot of them have faded to thin white lines. Some are pretty raised and they are easy. I go through periods where I’m able to control myself and stop, but sometimes when I’m under a lot of stress or at a low point in my life i slip. Its just like any other addiction, always there, always an option, just demanding a lot of self control to stop.
I hope the therapy helps, I was pretty resistant to it. I have trust issues lol.
The drugs didn’t help much either. Paxil made me shake and clench my jaw. I was afraid my teeth would shatter a night, I couldn’t eat solid food while I was on that because of the pain.
Welbutrin made me sick to my stomach all the time.
Zoloft wasn’t so bad side effect wise, but it didn’t really do anything anyway.
klonopin was fun. The doctor had me taking it everyday. The problem is I started drinking while I was taking it for the high. I really started abusing that one so I decided it was best I stop. I ended up with withdrawls from that one, shakes, drenched with sweat, ect. Not fun.
That’s sort of what happened to me. I was lucky and only had to stay about a week.
Hopefully they are able to more for you than they were for me. Inpatient stays are not fun.
Please don’t think your experiences are going to be the same as mine. I think I said before I was pretty resistant to treatment, that doesn’t mean it will be the same for you.
I hope your therapist does a better job for you than any of mine have done for me.
welps..
they wont understand it.because they dont know what you are going through unless they have cut there self befor i have been a cutter for 2 months now and i only told one person my best friend i though she would understand…. but were not friends anymore she thinks i’m weird but its the only way i make myself feel better :[
I hear ya.
I’m 13, you see and so i’m at that age where everything is turned into a big deal. I carved a J in my leg to remind myself every day that my fathers out there hurting and raping little girls and i can’t help it. it makes me sick. So i turned to drinking and shit, but that got me no where so is stopped. I have come to the conslusion that cutting is a disease, and you can get addicted to it. How i managed to stop, is i wrote down all the reasons why i’m cutting, and then on the other side i wrote down all the reasons why i shouldn’t cut. My arms aren’t horrible, i counted and theres about 13 on the wrists, and 7 on my legs..so i managed to stop before it got serious. But how i stoped is i met this girl, whos the same age as me. She had cuts from her wrists to her shoulders, and she was proud of them. like she thought she’d win an award or something like that. I just realized how i was turing into that, so i stopped. It was hard but i stopped. I get made fun of at school, by this guy. He calls me Emo Slut, and Loner Child because i’m almost always alone, My father doesn’t live with us and my mom works 3 jobs. I hate life sometimes, but alls i do is listen to music and it helps remind me i’m still breathing, so why waste the breath by cutting. Who needs it.
Understand?
yeah. I understand completly. One problem. I’m at the point where cutting is like a drug. I do it all the time. If I go more then two days, I spaz. I mean 100% go crazy. I understand that it is a dumb thing to do, yet I cant get myslef to stop. Maybe the shink will help.. DOubtful
hey I responded to your comment above…I am very proud of you for stopping! That must have taken a lot of courage and strength. The door is always open to talk still! :)
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im 13 my name is liam and i have a simler problem .. i cut .. ive onli been cutting for a year and i first started by cutting a small star into the back of my hand with a geometry compas and it releived me of lots of stress that i was going through to do with school. I recently discoverd razors and they’re so much easyer to use, and i became so attached to using it that i had no room left on ma hand and part of my wrist to cut any more.
My mum recently noticed a cut just poking out of my glove ( as i wear my fingerless gloves around the house to hide them ).. she asked me what it was nd i sed just a scratch from school in design and technology and she doesnt beleive me .. shes asked to see my hand and i dont no what to do .. i havn’t got much time to make an excuse and i need an anser asap … thanks
if you think that your friends will understand they probably wont… some of my friends understand but thats only cause like 3 of us cut not just one so they kinda support us all i guess?
buut if your concerned you should stop because theat isnt that bad. i mean i have 40 cuts on my leg 3 on my wrist and 20ish on my arm… the way people look at me when they see them is ok wiht me because if they cant except me as a cutter then why would they except me as a non cutter?
That picture was taken three months ago. My cutting has gotten so much worse since then. I have over eighty cuts now. So, i guess it is bad.
I ahve a friend to talk to about it too. But.. she isn’t as bad. She only has liek ten or twenty. I support her, but she has a very ahrd time supporting me.
People don’t see my cuts. I hide them. No one has ever seen them all. The most I show is my wrist, which is fairly good. I mean ten or twelve cuts. I have never shown any one the seventy [or more] on my legs. I kind of see them as a prize. That sounds kinda funny. But, it makes sense to me. You know?
Question
One of my close friends is helping a friend of hers who cuts herself and pretty much every night talks to her until like 1am whenever she feels like cutting to help her out of doing it. We both want her to get better, because like you, it is becoming an addiction to her. We just really want to help her get better, and we know that she wants to get better too.. Does anyone know what we could do besides just be there for her?
Her parents just get angry at her when they see her cuts, and all the teachers do is tell her parents.. and a therapist would be a good idea, but I don’t think her family has the money for a therapist, or would even be willing to help her out.
Like I said, we want nothing more than to help her out of this addiction that she has developed..
Also, I was just wondering.. Why do you guys cut yourself? Is it just to relieve stress or something? I don’t really understand it very well, and I think if I understood better, we could help her better..
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