Children very often fantasize that they must save or rescue their mother so that she can finally be the mother to them whom they needed form the beginning.

...the adult can freely take out his or her aggressions on the child, whereas the child’s emotional reactions, which are even more intense than the adult’s, must be suppressed by force and by the strongest sanctions.

The gifted child who adapts to parental demands always tries to understand this absurdity and will accept it as a matter of course. But he has to pay for this pseudo-understanding with his feelings and his sensitivity to his own needs, i.e., with his authentic self. This is why access to the normal, angry, uncomprehending, and rebellious child he once was had previously been blocked off. When this child within the adult is liberated, he will discover his vital roots and strength.