keep at it and it will be. you’re in a challenging situation because he’s so close, but maybe you can turn that to your advantage. like i said, mine’s probably not completely over (chiefly because obsession is such a habit), but i have made up my mind! marked the 43T-link “done;” i finally got that the only way for this thing to die is to stop feeding it. when my thoughts turn to “it,” i literally tap my forehead and mentally tell myself anything that is not about the “crush.” from what i read, repeated thoughts activate something in the frontal lobe area of the brain that perpetuate romantic obsession (not really good explanation, but i hope i’ve made the point). i realized i was going about it the wrong way: focusing on him (why doesn’t he like me, etc.) instead of me (what do i need, want, etc – from life, from a significant other, whatev). i really do wish him well – but i wish me the best of everything. you too Izzy. just by virtue of being human, you deserve good things. you deserve to be treated well and appreciated. let your light shine and it will attract the “who, what, and when” that will give you love, attention, comfort, and joy. i won’t be posting anymore about the crush, but feel free to email if you need to. i have to put mine down now. i am confident you will do the same, and soon.

take care of yourself,

A/