RuthG raises a toast for a fruitful 2010!

change my avatar
It's still me 3 years ago

but I’m not going to post photos of myself anymore.



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Care to share your reasoning with us?

RuthG raises a toast for a fruitful 2010!

I've been thinking about it

for a while. Then yesterday I was reviewing my 43People page & was reminded that some of the men who say they want to meet me have only women on their list, & in a couple of cases I’m the only one on their list. When I don’t have a good feeling about such people, I block them. I haven’t actually been harassed by anyone here, but I’m sensitive to possibilities because of past (& some recent) experiences.

I just wonder whether having a self-photo avatar with my big ol’ smile (which I can’t help, it’s on my face a lot of the time!) suggests that I might be open to stuff that I’m not.

So instead I shall represent myself as Indian Paintbrush.

Deni H is juggling a lot of balls right now.

Seems like a well-thought...

action. I personally don’t ever plan to put my picture out there for some of those reasons.

When it comes to online anonymity, I’ve learned from the school of hard knocks to err on the side of caution. Kudos to you.

RuthG raises a toast for a fruitful 2010!

Thanks.

I’ve lost a couple of subscribers, which in this case is all to the good, I think.

so true

there are folks out there who will “misbehave” and this is unfortunate. however, one of the things i love about 43T is the sense of warmth that comes through comments, regardless of pictorial representation.

it’s all good as long as we carry on.

happy holidays and hugs to anyone reading!

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Deni H is juggling a lot of balls right now.

Interesting!

I hope nothing negative has happened to motivate this decision. I think flowers are appropriate to represent you, though. :)

RuthG raises a toast for a fruitful 2010!

Thanks!

One of my images for my life is a field of wildflowers, & I’ve been wondering about my great-great-grandmother, who was a Chickasaw. So Indian Paintbrush I shall be here.

For my reasoning, see my answer to thexder, above.

Good idea, I think!

And a good model for others, too, Ruth. I’m really shocked by how much identifying material young people post freely on-line, never realizing that it can hurt them. And once it’s out there, it’s really difficult to get privacy back. Hopefully, it’ll remind some of them to be careful about their anonymity. I’ve even heard of employers searching for names on the internet, with some pretty sad results! Some reserve is a good thing.

Glad you’re taking care of yourself, my friend. And I think the Indian paintbrush is a wonderful symbol for you!

I’ve been reading a bit about the Chickasaw, since they were one of the tribes in this region. What an amazing people!

RuthG raises a toast for a fruitful 2010!

You're ahead of me

in reading about that part of my heritage. If you’ve found any really great material on the Chickasaw, do let me know!

Sure...

I just finished a history of Andrew Jackson, which is what had me thinking about the Chickasaw. By Blount, I think…a good book.

But Jackson’s role was as the conqueror, and the book had little real history of the Indians. There is a museum near here of Native American history, and the kids and I may go this coming week (they’re off, and I want some activities to do with them that are fun!) I’m hoping I’ll find a good history book there—I’ll pass it along if I do.

It’s nice to be at a place in life where I enjoy reading things I’ve never thought much about before. Like history. Did I ever tell you my mother was an archeologist, and fascinated with the Indian tribes in the southern United States? I remember being taken on many a dig in Arkansas and Texas with my younger brother. It ishilarious, looking back…there I was, age 13 or so, just old enough to be terribly self-conscious of how I looked, and we’d be stuck in the desert for a week in the camp, sifting DIRT, sweat rolling off us. Mom loved every minute of it. I was taught how to frame a site, and carefully brush away the dirt, looking for ?what? They never could tell me exactly, but I figured arrowheads were good. Once we did find one, and I was narrowly stopped from yanking it out. “Why not?!” I was shocked! They wanted to brush the dirt carefully away, and at the end of the week, they were still brushing…..so I never got to see the whole thing.

Thus ended any interest I might have had in archeology!

pioneerspirit is re-discovering 43

yuo're all

making me re-think it too. I vascillate between cautiousness, outright paranoia, and maybe being too carefree. I worry about pictures of my kids more…why I stopped posting flickr pics…

Well, the flowers are lovely!

RuthG raises a toast for a fruitful 2010!

Either way,

face or other symbol, your warmth & caring are communicated to all of us, pioneerspirit!

pioneerspirit is re-discovering 43

thank you Ruth!!!

If it helps...

I only post pictures of mine from the back. I think they’re so adorable, I can’t help it, but I really try to be careful about that.

with flickr

you can tag em for public or for friends or for family only…

only the public ones get displayed here…

just a thought…

:)

In general,

it’s a very good idea, but in fact you have already given more identifying information than you wanted to – by the links to your book. That’s one of the scariest things about the internet: The information is out and doesn’t disappear.

(My avatar is REALLY me, but from 1959, so perhaps I can remain incognito.)

RuthG raises a toast for a fruitful 2010!

Good point

It is a risk one runs, but having published, I figure the idea is to share one’s writings.

For a woman particularly, showing one’s face can elicit a different kind of attention—a kind I really don’t want.

It's a matter for each person to decide, but

I’m certain you are right. I’m a man, so I can’t entirely empathize, whether I try or not.

I wonder whether identifiably female internet users receive quite so much sexually oriented spam as the men do. If I were interested, there would be a surprising number of underage girls who never learned how to spell willing to commit various felonies with me – if I believed my daily inbox!


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