logta65

Figure things out (read all 2 entries…)
Confusion 3 years ago

This is what’s kept me from moving on with my life. I’m just floating, moving sideways. I need to figure out which way I’m going, or perhaps keep going in the direction I was, but with peace that my plans are well with God.

I can’t stay in fear believing that I’m going against God’s wishes. This has kept me so stuck, when I was one of the most driven people I knew. I wonder if it’s the devil the one stopping me.

I do have to figure things out. I can’t really afford therapy to do this, but I haven’t been successful on my own. It might be costing me more not to get help but how can I be sure that I get godly council. I don’t see many references in the Bible on how to fix your emotional problems. I wonder if this is even important (how we feel) for God in the grand scheme of things.

Dec 17, 2006, 02:55PM PST


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Dec 18, 2006, 02:42AM PST

Godsworkinprogress

This season...

can also be an emotional rollercoaster of a season. I know trying to figure it all out doesn’t happen on a schedule, but I sure wish we all had the answers before the next big hill or valley. All I do know is that remaining in prayer and with a focus on your spiritual health in the perspective you go much further.

Early on in our marriage we went through a secular counselor and it was very helpful. There did reach a point for me, when I realized this is in God’s hands and not my own – at least as it related to the point we were at. I always felt that the experience worked w/God’s plan for our life – not against it. There were basic issues that we needed help figuring out.

As you work towards your understanding of the grand scheme of things , remember that God did not promise that we would be without problems – just that He would always be there. Jeremiah 29:11 has always been a resource for me – in fact as I share it with you I know I should spend some time meditating on it myself tonight.

Happy holidays to you – and all the happiness your heart can hold.

Dec 23, 2006, 02:18PM PST | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

logta65

Thanks so much

Sorry for my delay answering your comment. I was out of town for a few weeks. I loved reading your response. It’s great to know sometimes that others share our feelings.

I agree with you. I also wish we had time to fix one thing before the next problem. Sometimes it can become so overwhelming that it makes you feel like you’ll never be able to cope or get through.

I have remained in prayer but sometimes I feel like I must be missing something, or that there is a reason why my prayers don’t seem to get answered. I know God has been very gracious and good to me, and I know he loves me, but I think I am missing the mark with him. It says in the bible that things go well with those who love God and follow his commands. That only makes me think that I must be doing the wrong thing, since I don’t have much peace and things have been very difficult for me for a long time now. I guess I think I am not spiritually healthy right now. There have been times when things go right and I feel like my relationship with God is so much better, but I can’t seem to remember what was I doing differently.

I’ve been thinking about going to a counselor but I’m afraid of going to a secular one. I did go to one a long time ago and it was very helpful, but I kept hearing from pastors on the radio how that is a bad idea because they want you to solve your problems on your own and not necessarily rely on God. So, that right there takes away my self confidence – since I’m not supposed to believe in myself but let God take care of things instead. This is very confusing to me.

Right now, there is someone I met who works as a life coach. I’m skeptical only because he is not Christian, but it seems like having meetings with him will be helpful. I don’t want this to be like the story where I ask God for help and he does but I reject it, waiting for a big miracle. (Like the story of the guy who was drowning and asked God for help, he said no to the boat and the helicopter that tried to rescue him, telling them he was waiting for God, then he drowned and God told him HE sent him the boat and the helicopter). I wonder if this “life coach” is an answered prayer or if it’s wrong to go to him and I should keep waiting for God. (What if he’s a “boat” from God?)

Thank you so much for your support and wonderful words and wishes. I will study the scripture again. I hope you had a very nice holiday season.

Blessings to you and your family :)

Logta

Jan 16, 2007, 04:24PM PST | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Godsworkinprogress

The Life Boat....

I don’t know what life boat you’ll decide on, but I think that seeking assistance isn’t in opposition to relying on God. Coaching is new to me, I also have a friend who is certififed in the field. I have a bias toward having people who surround you have at the very least the healthiest of regards for your faith – so that they don’t openly give advice or suggestions that don’t settle with your core. Coaches are supposed to help you solve the problems and identify the true issues without telling you the solution. In that approach – whoever is able to assist in that discovery process should serve you well. I hope your faith is strengthened by Job and the miracles with that story. I think about people like Ruth and Naomi – clearly they had several seasons of hardship and loss, and God restored them. I am hopeful about that restoration, even as I wrestle with things I too don’t understand.

What I do know is that faith is grounded in the belief that God has our best interest at heart – regardless of circumstances. In Deuteronomy when I read about God giving us power, I’m often reminded of the balance we continually seek to have Him bless the work of our hands and to learn when to be still. I often pray not to miss God’s direction to the left or to the right – clearly I have picked the bumpier road upon occassion.

Counseling can be good and can help give you tools to move forward. I hope you are surrounded by resources that help you on your journey. We relocated and finding a new church home has been quite a difficult task. It makes me appreciate even more the benefit of being in ongoing fellowship with people who are pursuing excellence and human all in the same breath – while learning key lessons that change your life. Stay in touch. Here’s to encouragement, faith and resolve to move forward – for both of our journeys.

Take good care.

Jan 20, 2007, 02:37AM PST | Thread | Respond to this

logta65

Sorry it's been so long

Thank you for all your sound advice. You are right, we definitely need to surround ourselves with people that share our values and faith, who can be a positive influence for us, as we should be for them. Finding a church has been a bit difficult but I’m still hopeful. I hope you have found a new place where feel you were mean to be.

I couldn’t afford the coach. It’s been tough because I can’t seem to be able to “afford” help. But I’m glad I tried it out. It’s getting to the point where I’m having to find help within me – and I don’t know if that’s possible. It’s still hard to hear God’s voice but I’m practicing letting go of my will to see if that will get rid of the static in our conversation.

How are you doing? I hope everything is well with you. Stay in touch if you can.

May 22, 2007, 12:38PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer


 

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