I suppose...
4 years ago
I’ve been doing this a long time already.
Still, it’s important to keep doing it.
It’s the happy part that’s so hard.
And it’s hard because love is infinite but time, money, patience, and energy are not.
Comments:
"Happy" may not be the right term
“Appropriate” may be better. I find that I have an unlimited amount of love, a very limited amount of time. However, there are some partners out there who are content with three weekends a year, or “every time you find yourself in my area”, or “over email”. I find that although I have what I like to refer to as a “bevy” of lovers, I am always open to the possibility of more, especially if they hear my “I’m a really busy person, this is the amount of time I can commit to right now” speech and not run away screaming.
I totally get that – one of the nice things about being poly is that you don’t have to be the end-all, be-all to anyone. And that makes for a better relationship overall.
I have to sometimes fight back my possessive / jealous nature (either by appeasement, rationalization, or through a compersive process) but I really enjoy the way poly folk can come to an agreement about one’s situation and stick to it.
