cherry311 I made out with the GodFather last night ;)

Have a baby (read all 8 entries…)
kind of upsetting, kind of maddening 2 years ago

I’m at work and it just so happens to be my double shift day (i do a 16 hour shift once a week so I can have an extra day off during the week) and I’m sitting at my desk and a woman i work with asks if i’m working 8 or 12 hours today.
I respond “No. It’s my 16 today.”
She then says “Ouch. You must not have any kids.”
And of course i say no. So then she proceeds to ask me how old i am in which i reply “29 and i’ll be 30 next month.”
And she assumes that since i’m ‘SO OLD’ without kids that i don’t intend on having any. And she goes on to say that she doesn’t blame me for not wanting them.
But wait wait wait i think. “I do want kids. It just hasn’t happened yet.”
Her eyes got all big and she was shocked.
I went on to tell her that i do not believe 30 to be Old and that plenty of women have children way into their 30’s and some even 40’s (which i don’t agree on)
But it kind of hurt…..why can’t i have a baby at 30? or even 31 or 32 or 33 and so on??

Feb 01, 2007, 07:28PM PST | 5 cheers


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MandyTLCandy I don't like myself, I'm CRAZY about myself (:

Plenty..

Of people think that way, its unfortunate, but like I say..WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK! While having a child when your younger does have benefits, you too have been blessed with many benefits. You’ve gotten to live on your own, come and go as you please, and most importantly have had plenty of time discover who you are and who you would like to be as a woman and as a Mama. I just read that women in their 30’s having babies are at the highest in 3 decades, so honeybuns, you are not alone. You’ve got time…in the meantime you are still going to remain the bestest friend and the bestest auntie and god-mama out there (;

Feb 02, 2007, 08:27AM PST | Thread | Respond to this

cherry311 I made out with the GodFather last night ;)

thanks babycakes. :)

Feb 04, 2007, 02:10PM PST | Respond to this

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Feb 03, 2007, 09:28PM PST

cherry311 I made out with the GodFather last night ;)

thats what i think

i DO have plenty of time. And so do you!
Why rush into something if i’m not ready for it, right?
you are absolutely right MrsAsh. thanks

Feb 04, 2007, 02:12PM PST | Respond to this

pommery

my mom had me at 35. no worries.

Feb 13, 2007, 08:33PM PST | Thread | Respond to this

cherry311 I made out with the GodFather last night ;)

thanks pommery.
My mom likes to tell me now and again how she was done having children by the time she was 30. But she also had been married to the love of her life for 10 years by then! And honey times, they are a changing!
:)

Feb 13, 2007, 09:09PM PST | Respond to this

rosymamacita is trying to recover her 43t chops. stand by

I'm late to this comment

but I just had to pitch in.

Don’t let anybody give you grief about not being ready to have a baby or get married or not having a boyfriend.

There is still time. Life happens faster than you expect. I was very single at your age—or no, had just been dumped by someone I thought was “the one.” Whichever, there was no one on the horizon.

But I met the guy when I was 33, had a baby at 34, and a second baby at 36. Now I have my family, and am still young.

It may be a trade off, waiting until your thirties or forties. When you wait, you get to live a life for yourself when you are young, you get to explore and enjoy, and find out who you are. Maybe you don’t have as much energy, but hopefully, you’ll have more life experience and wisdom.

My advice to you, if you really want to find someone and have a baby soon is to focus on yourself and what you want out of a relationship. Also, figure out if you really want one or if you are subconsciously avoiding it. I was—choosing guys who wouldn’t commit or hiding away from them all together. When I had faced my fears of intimacy (which were really fears of abandonment and being hurt again) then it all fell into place.

Mind you—that doesn’t mean life will be perfect, it’ll just give you new issues to work on.

Jul 27, 2007, 10:56AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

cherry311 I made out with the GodFather last night ;)

thanks for your words

I do admit it kind of bothered me in the beginning and i was getting a little worried…but now that i’ve met someone wonderful the baby thing has taken a back seat. Yes I still want children one day, but I am in no rush and I will not let anyone’s opinions get in my way! Right now i’m focused on me and the wonderful new relationship that I am in….I’m letting things go with the flow and mature on there own.

Babies will be in my future though…i promise you that!

Jul 28, 2007, 10:07AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

rosymamacita is trying to recover her 43t chops. stand by

Good for you

There’s no rush

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