Yes really!
After being surrounded by droves of the crippling insecure… by cripplingly insecure i mean people who cannot do anything with out the input of others: “how should i tell the waitress that i don’t want ice in my soda?” “where do i buy a sympathy card” “do you think my socks look okay? i mean really- do they?”; people who are so insecure that they are rendered almost lazy by it, I’ve come to realize I’m not as insecure as I thought.
Perhaps I’m lucky to have been afflicted with so many who are helplessly depleted of esteem to the point of lethargy which has in turn prompted me to be more proactive in my own endeavors. Or it could be that I’ve shelled out so much repeated reassurance and direction for those too worried that they will muck up their own direction that’s it’s filled me with some false sense of ableness.
Eitherway, I’ve come to realize that it doesn’t matter what others think at all. I mean at all.
It comes down to this one reason: You are going to die.
Someday everyone around you including yourself will die. Who knows how, but when you’re lying on your death bed about to submit to eternity- how others percieved you isn’t going to be on your mind, it’s going to be what you’ve done, what you didn’t do and why and how. It’s not going to matter if the lady at the customer service booth hates you because you’re being annoying when returning something. It’s not going to matter if your first five boyfriends dumped you. It’s not going to matter if you’re friend from the fifth grade thought you were fat. It’s not going to matter.
What will matter is if you are self-satisfied, if you learned what you should have from the situations in your life and used them as tools to better yourself. you cannot fault yourself for trying and trying to improve- only congratulate yourself for doing what most people are too scared to do which is be constructive through critisism.
Think of all the time and energy you waste wondering what others think of you when you could use this time to make yourself better by your own terms and means. Self-esteem starts with the “self” not others. If you will it to, you can do it. Those who think they can’t are just too lazy to try.
