eBear is making changes.

be more assertive (read all 6 entries…)
i guess this is as good a place as any

to post this; I find many of my goals are really just facets of one larger goal, and so many posts weave into each other thread titles/goals.

Anyway….

I was feeling REALLY sulky and whiny and sorry for myself this afternoon, especially after reading a friend’s blog, and reading the comments that some of our other friends had left for her. They were just light, silly things, but they all spoke of her being closer with them than she is with me. Which is indicative of all of my friendships of late. I feel as though everyone has run off to be with other friends, and more exciting lives than my own.

Then I decided to do something about it.

I wrote to one friend asking her if she wanted to meet for lunch one day soon, and on my way home on the bus tonight I called another one – only got to leave a message, and she didn’t call back, but hey, I’ve been proactive. So I’m feeling pretty good, all in all.

I need to take these baby steps to get to a point where I can exercise assertiveness in all areas of my life, but especially work.

Feb 20, 2007, 09:38PM PST | 2 cheers


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aurora56

Did you do that course you were talking about? I find that people talk over me too … not evryone, probably just the more ruder people. And I have a hard time dealing with loud obnoxious personalities. You as well?

Feb 26, 2007, 09:48PM PST | Thread | Respond to this

eBear is making changes.

nope.

I didn’t sign up for it. But I think it’s being offered again; I will have to look at the booklet again, and this time bring it in to work so I can check my schedule against the class times to make sure it works. I did buy a bunch of books at a book sale about being more assertive, so I should really get onto reading them. I have a lot of books all on the go right now; each of them a “self help” book of some sort.

As for obnoxious people? Yeah, I just can’t be bothered anymore. But I have to wonder if I don’t want to deal with rude, obnoxious people because I”m not ready to admit that I too have that quality to the same degree, and I just don’t want to deal with it yet? Because we really are all mirrors for one another, so clearly there’s stuff I’m not processesing if I can’t stand to face certain people based on my perceptions of their demeanour.

Feb 27, 2007, 08:50AM PST | Respond to this

aurora56

Yeah good point. I thought the same thing … I took a good hard look at myself to see if what I dislike in others is simply a reflection of my own behaviour but I have decided that’s not so. I have decided to become more patient and understanding of others and that it’s not up to me to try and change them.

Mar 01, 2007, 02:13PM PST | Thread | Respond to this

eBear is making changes.

Ahhh yes…the need to change others. Ha – that’s a good one, isn’t it? ;^D

I’m struggling with that one today. I’m finding it really hard to accept right now, and I’m a bit unrelenting.

Oh well.

I’ll just keep working at it, and working on myself so that once I’ve changed, I’ll be able to see the change in others too.

Mar 01, 2007, 03:26PM PST | Respond to this


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