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I was visiting my brother a couple of weeks ago. He is 6 years older than me and he has a 10-month-old son. We were sitting in the sauna and chatting about all kinds of things and the life in general. At some point we started talking about how many things there are to do every day and how limited time we have to spend on our hobbies.

Having thought about his situation I have to consider myself lucky, because as a student I can basically make my own schedules. But my brother, he works regular hours and he has a small child that he has to look after. Of course he has a wife who can look after the child, too, but whenever she needs to be away, my brother must take care of the little boy. Traveling abroad with such a young child is also out of the question.

However, it’s not like my brother is regretful for having a child, not at all. He really loves his son and his wife. I can see that they are a happy family. It’s just that life is about making choices; it’s all about how we want to use the precious little time we have. My choice is not to have children, because I want to spend my life doing other things than caring for my offspring.



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not have children???? what!!!!!!

how could u not want children i mean they are so cute and why not have a child but no u want a schedel instead of one that just happens what every u are not a risk taker!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!k !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Disregard the above…she is clearly on crack.

please do not see this an attack, it truely is only a question. i do respect your opinion and think it´s better not to have children than make everybody involved unhappy. in your entry you wrote that traveling with young children was out of the question. my question is: why do you think that? i´m very curious on how people form this opinion.
i was born in europe, but my parents work in developping countries quite often. the first time they took me along i was 7 month old. with them i lived i 4 different countries and moves 9 times, without counting shorter trips. i feel that i neither held them back -nor did this constant traveling harm me in any way. on the contrary, i´ve been to tons of places and speak 5 languages :) looking at my family i feel that having kids and living the life you want is not exclusive, most of all the traveling part. i´d be happy if you found the time to answer my question, i´d love to understand your piont of view.

No offense taken

Actually it was my brother who brought up the topic of traveling. I guess it all depends on what kind of traveling it is and what the parents want to do, but in any case a baby is one more thing to be taken into consideration and it always makes matters more complicated. It probably is possible to travel with small kids, but it’s not the kind of traveling that I want to do.

For example, think about taking an Interrail trip in Europe; going from one country to another, making spontaneous decisions and being on the road for several weeks doesn’t sound like such a great idea when you have to feed a young child, change diapers and make sure they get enough sleep, etc.

Generally speaking, raising kids calls for routines, dedication and responsibility. The time that I have to spend on taking care of a child is away from doing things that I truly enjoy.

Sounds harsh, but I really am not keen on parenting.


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