eventually I stopped blaming. It took more energy than I could afford. I can’t fix them then or now…so I am all about fixing me. I don’t like what happened as a child…hell, I don’t like some interactions as an adult! I had to move on.

Maybe focus more on you and less on them…

I was always told, don’t let them live rent free in your head.

and my relationship with my parents is better for it. i wish you all the best in getting to this place too! Living at home always makes such things harder but with distance it becomes easier. Our parents are just as human as we are and have as many foibles as the next person and sometimes i think as children we tend to misplace that idea. not intentionally but just because we have high expectations of the ones who bore us and raised us. but for you even to come to the point where you have it as a goal means you are halfway there i think :)

good luck with it!