got this link from Conekt’s entry – thank you

Great summary about how we are taught by consistent experience that you have to “buy” love with our words and behaviour, which is false, as “we can’t feel fulfilled by love we pay for.”

“As you tell the truth about yourself to other people—especially about your mistakes, flaws, and fears—they can finally see you as you really are. They can accept you and give you unconditional love, as indicated in this simple diagram:

“Truth => Seen => Accepted => Loved”