You may have to do 100 first dates before you find a match that does not take effort to hold together.

Key is volume. You have to enter enemy territory and hunt where they feed. I know I guy who did well with ballet, to cite an extreme.

You have to put on a show. For example, a sports car will jazz up the image of your typical accountant type, learn to cook and develop an artistic sideline. If you are an artist, develop a practical (money generating) sideline.

You have to connect at the animal, practical and mystical levels to get a full lock.

You will love all your exs till the day you die, if you dont, you wernt doing it right.