It’s hard to say no, but once you do it feels like a huge weight taken from your shoulders. Now I need to remind myself this; and work on not feeling obligated to have a reason or excuse to say no- if someone counter excuses me I feel a larger sense of obligation to do something I don’t want. At least I’m not the only person, and I am surprised to see men on here, it makes me feel a LOT better to know that it’s not just women and that there are men that are secure enough to say something about it. If we can say this, why be shy to say no!