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Sorrow about the loss of friendship with S

Was friends with a guy named S. until some women started gossiping about us. They are stupid!!
We were just having fun and being silly. In real life we were great friends. It was alot of work to be friends with him because neither of us takes risks very easily.

He’s ignoring me now even though he says there’s not a problem between us. I know there is and he’s just clammed up.

So I’ve decided to just let him and our friendship go. I don’t see any alternative except to continue to try to work things out and convince him that they were completely lying about me and wrong about our friendship. That will just make us both crazy.

I’m very sad about this loss because it is out of my control, I’ve done nothing wrong, he’s done nothing wrong and yet we’ve both lost out on a friendship that could have been professionally as well as personally satisifying. I thought we’d all end up friends for a long time. Too bad he has chosen to let a couple busybodies ruin it.

Sucks, but gotta let it go….



Comments:

oh no

What a horrible situation. Good for you deciding to let it go. Hopefully one day, he will choose to get over it and be friends, but it sounds like you’re doing the right thing right now.

Thanks

Oddly enough, today we actually wrote a couple emails back and forth. Some of us were hanging out last night and I sent him an invitation. He responded that due to some stuff he wasn’t really interested in being in the place where we were and he just wasn’t interested in stuff right now.

I asked him if that including being friends will all of us and he said ‘I knew you were going to say that. No’

we talked a little bit about other stuff.

Think that letting it go was how I got to the place of being open enough to listen but not “desperate” enough to press him for answers. We’ll just let him come back around when he’s ready….

He almost sounded a bit depressed I think. We’ll have to keep a watch out for him….

How stupid is this?

Today, I’m IMing with my friend J and somehow the conversation got over to S which it often does cause he’s a mutual friend. So, J says something, can’t remember, which irritates me and I completely spill the beans about how hurt and angry I am about S. and THEN….I bloody start crying! Unbelievable. I rarely cry so it was odd to find myself tearing up over this stupid thing.
Decided that the whole thing with him still really hurts. Didn’t realize it until I wrote it out. Sucks!

J, of course, freaked out cause we had just moments before been in a logical debate about something and then all of a sudden I’m crying. LOL! He truly didn’t know what to do or say…so he went to lunch.

Typical! (rolling eyes here)


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