I’ve been with my husband for about 8 years. We have 2 toddler boys. I’ve been unsure lately whether or not to call it quits or at least to ask for a seperation. I knew the day we got married (about 4 years ago) that I wasn’t physically attracted to him like I should be. I have a hard time making love to him. Part of it is that both of us have gained weight since being with each other. He’s been overweight most of his life and I think he’ll always be this way. I have talked to him plenty about how it bothers me. I feel it to be disgusting most of the time even to kiss him. He’s a good person but the last few years he’s been a glass-half-empty type of guy and he’s selfish a lot. He doesn’t like to play with our kids much. His idea of entertainment is watching movies. I’d rather be going for a hike, canoeing, or dancing. He hates dancing. I love it. He hardly ever turns me on. I’ve been just chalking it up to ‘that’s how marriage is sometimes’. I feel like he deserves someone that loves him romantically. I love him and enjoy spending time with him for the most part. His libido is sooooo much higher than mine. He’s constantly grabbing me even though I say no. He wants to hug me like 50 million times a day it seems and I hardly ever feel like I want to. I’ve been thinking well, maybe it’s because I get so much love and attention from the toddlers that I don’t need a third person hanging all over me, but it was this way before kids too. I had major hesitation at the alter of our wedding and at the conception of our first child. Our second child came by surprise. To add to the confusion, we’re almost ready to move out of state (from New England to the Carolinas). If we ended it, I’m not sure if I would want to stay up here for family support even though I can’t stand winters or go down there anyhow. Can anyone give me advice?
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I wish you good luck with your decision. Before you call it quits, try to talk it over with your husband and go to marraige counceling. I think that would be the best decision for you to do. I really wish you well.