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stranded between the devil and the deep blue sea.

I’ve always had horrible problems with relating to others and have always feel like an outsider, that others wouldn’t understand me, as well. Because of this I rarely go out and never approach or even meet the eyes of strangers (whether they’re attractive girls, or not), am uncomfortable in public, and probably appear entirely uninterested when I do want to meet people and live life more. Part of me feels I’ve been dragging my feet because I’m used to this life, used to feeling like an observer, and that I’m safe here, disconnected. How to change?



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I know the feeling all too well. It’s rough.

People always tell me that i appear angry, unapproachable, or indifferent when in actuality I’m feeling good as ever and wanting company more than anything, and I’ve even heard that people are afraid to talk to me sometimes.

I’m also used to feeling disconnected.

Thanks for the addition. Although I know in theory that there is bound to be a few others out there who can relate to each individual thought I have, it’s hard to translate that into any kind of meaningful feeling of belonging or inclusiveness until I personally meet someone, like yourself.

Although I’m not feeling happy most of the time, I certainly realize I won’t be content without having some people to share my life and time with, and I’ve also heard from those who have gotten to know me better that, on the surface, just walking around in a public situation, I appear quite unapproachable and they also would be afraid of coming near.

I’m reading a book titled “Feel the Fear… And Do it Anyway” by Susan Jeffers which I think can help greatly in this respect. What keeps me from making friends is my reaction to fear hands-down; it’s paralyzing rather than something easily overcome.

Advice from a friend...

You can keep this message or you can delete it for good. Just as long as you hear me out that is all that really matters. I know how you feel about you not relating to other people. I had these friends in high school who were into things that didn’t seem appealing to me.

They got upset with me, because i wouldn’t say or do anything. I tried telling them how i feel and they only seemed to sneer at it and at me. You don’t have to like what you’re friends likes, if they don’t understand you’re feelings. Then they aren’t worth being friends with at all.

Just, because they like Star Wars or whatever, doesn’t mean you have to follow along. Just simply say you’re not interested and if they don’t find something that you all can do together, then forget them. They aren’t worth it. They should at least try to be fair.

So, you’re saying that nobody understands you. Well, i understand you completely and i haven’t left you yet. You aren’t an outsider to me, if i thought you were, i wouldn’t be hear sending you this reply. Maybe what you need more then ever is just someone to listen to you.

I’m willing to support you Red Fall, if you just give me a chance… I’m willing to stick around for as long as you want me around. You shouldn’t have to be afraid to walk around in public. You don’t necessarily have to have a huge talk to people in public.

If someone happens to say hi or how are you? Just simply respond back. It doesn’t have to be a long conversation with them. Try going out in public and just welcome someone with a friendly hi. Someone might need one, not everyone is cold hearted. i know for a fact that you aren’t.

A cold hearted person wouldn’t sit on the internet sharing his feelings with people around the world. A cold hearted person is someone who brings other people down. I’ve have never seen a guy like you with so much heart and a lot to offer. You are a warm hearted person with feeling and all you want is for someone to hear your cry.

I have heard your cry and i’m willing to do whatever it takes to help. You have the right to accept this message and you have the right to decline this message. Whatever you decide to do Red Fall, i want you to at least know that there are some out there who do understand and do care about you!

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