By saying that you are implying that you could meet someone here on 43things and end up dating, yea even making love in a storm with them?

As one who has been here for more than two years and meeting people on-line for over ten years, my experience is that I will never meet 99.999% of all the people I talk to, in real life. As a matter of fact, I have only ever met one 2d person in the 3d world.

Knowing that the 2d and 3d worlds rarely collide has given me a freedom, freedom to really be myself, warts and all and to relax and enjoy meeting people with no boundaries set.

Here, a fat old married man in Texas can flirt like crazy with a witty lady in CA like he is 16 again.

It’s all good.

an element of chemistry! :) Absolutely! Along with sharing humor, mutual attentiveness, etc. All that good stuff.

What you mentioned is chemistry.

a “type.” Every time I have ever thought I had a “type,” I met someone devastatingly attractive who most decidedly did not fit that type.

It’s the type of person someone is, how they carry themselves, what sets them apart, how intelligent they are, do they have a sense of humor, are they strong but also empathetic – all of that.

Yes, physical attraction comes into play. But I have seen lots of men and women who look dynamite on the outside, and then…they open their mouths. Attractiveness quotient: 0. On the other hand, there have been lots of people who didn’t catch my attention at first, then you get to know them a little and you realize they are Total Hotties.

When there is that chemistry there.

One of the things I love about Sleepless in Seattle is that he knows when he touches her. Ah, chemistry!

_{Gads! Did I just mention that I not only watch but like Sleepless in Seattle? I have been married too long.}