Make People Understand that Many Adoptees have no Interest at all in Finding Their "Real" Parents (read all 4 entries…)
This doesn't necessarily belong in this goal, but I didn't see the need for a new goal: 2 years ago

My father died 12 years ago tomorrow (September 25), and the date is always a difficult one for which to gauge the correct response with my mother. Most years she doesn’t want to go out to lunch or dinner to commemorate the date, but it is important to her that the date be remembered. We’ll see how it goes this year.

(This photo of him is probably from his college days. Although there may seem to be some superficial resemblance between us, that’s not particularly true.)



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Ah, I so feel for you.`

These dates are really tough, at least in my experience. For what it’s worth, I also have ambivalent feelings about how to spend the day. I don’t want to do anything that smacks of “celebrating,” but at the same time, I love it when my kids remember that the date is significant to me. The greatest gift they’ve given me is the offer to pray with me on the date of his death. Perhaps something like that would meet your mom’s need, too.

Tink will be returning in baby steps.

What about donating either time or money...

...in his memory to a cause he supported (or would have supported), and letting your mom know that this is what you did to commemorate the day?


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