I can see the value of that. I’ve done it both ways. I’ve waited a long time (assuming 9 months is a long time by your definition) to get into relationship with someone, and also have become physically involved with someone in a matter of days after meeting her. Specific instances: the latter lasted 4 years; the earlier one 2. Another woman: 9 months to get to know (yeah, what’s up with this 9 months thing?), relationship lasts 4.5 years; another woman: 1 month to get to know, relationship lasted 3 months. I see the logic of what you say, but there is no rhyme or reason to it as applied to me. I just shrug and say, “I have no idea if my attraction-antenna should be trusted at all.” As I get older, though, the kind of woman that attracts me becomes more of a whole-package type of thing. It’s not just looks, but heart, intelligence, values, and many others. The one that consistently gets overlooked, however, is heart. Which perhaps is saying something loudly about how intermittently I am in touch with my own heart.

Thank you for your words and sharing your experience.

I’m with the there is no rhyme or reason.

The gift is in the loving.

I guess you’ve lived half a life now. I think your comments are pretty accurate from my life experiences. :)

... and thank you for sharing your thoughts. I’ll settle for someone who’s willing to discover and sharpen their skills for a committed relationship—see something I wrote on this here

Although I do have to say, those skills being pretty much in place at the outset does make for a smoother relationship. Thanks for your thoughts, once again.