stop apologizing (read all 4 entries…)
I think I've got this under control....

I never intended to stop asking for forgiveness, I do that and always will, but what I intended to stop and feel I’ve made evident progress in stopping is the business of saying “I’m sorry” for everything when either a)it’s not my fault and b)there is a better way of expressing it. Now, if I feel empathy I don’t say “I’m sorry” instead I say “I understand” – it’s much better… even when I do feel that I should ask for someone’s forgiveness I instead will either ask for forgiveness or state that “I apologize” somehow it’s not construed the same as saying “I’m sorry” – I don’t know what it is about those two words “I’m sorry” but whenever you say that people take it to mean that you think you’re a sorry son of a b, that you’re weak and taking blame for everything. Words are powerful, changing how I express myself is important. That’s what I’ve learned.



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New Isabella "In gladness and in safety, May all beings be at ease." - Sutta Nipata

Hey there...

Thanks for the recent cheers. How are you doing?

Couldn't answer for awhile...

sorry about that… I’m doing a little better now, had a pretty good little bout with depression but I’m pulling out of it; it’s a drag but I think in some ways the depression is good well no not good but it’s becoming a motivating factor; of course depression is a funny thing (not ha ha funny but weird funny)in that it’s so debilitating that to say it’s a motivating factor sounds crazy, but I’ll tell you once it does wear off enough to where I can function again a litle bit, I feel driven to get past it. I hate depression.

New Isabella "In gladness and in safety, May all beings be at ease." - Sutta Nipata

:( The Noonday Demon...

Sorry to hear you’ve been so depressed. If it makes you feel any better, know that you’re not alone. I fight it too—it’s a chronic thing with me. Lots and lots of other people fight it as well. I read somewhere that our society is “depressogenic,” and I believe it.

Glad you were well enough today to let us know how you’re doing.

thanks

hey your encouragement helps; much more than you imagine

by the way…I paid for my next two appointments at the dental clinic yesterday :) so i’m gettin there

OK well …take care; you seem to be doing good! Stay in touch (hugz)

New Isabella "In gladness and in safety, May all beings be at ease." - Sutta Nipata

2 Big Cheers...

for paying for your next 2 appointments at the dental clinic!

CHEER! CHEER!

New Isabella "In gladness and in safety, May all beings be at ease." - Sutta Nipata

Just thinking about you this morning...

hoping that you are OK and busy and not just depressed. Have you made it to your dental clinic appointments? I have an appointment with my therapist today.

Cheers

Yeah I’ve had some depression but have tried also to keep busy – so I guess I’ve not posted much for both reasons, thanks for thinking and asking about me it’s kind of you.

I go talk to my counselor tomorrow too, and have Doctor and Dentist appointments on the 29th and 30th – so I’m hanging in there – I’ll post again soon – you keep up the good work – it’s inspiring to see you doing so much better!

New Isabella "In gladness and in safety, May all beings be at ease." - Sutta Nipata

:) Thanks for the update...

Cheers to you on your progress with making appointments, and thanks for your kind words! Hope you have a good holiday weekend.

CHEERS!

Hi there :)

Just thinkin’ of ya and hoping this finds you well. I do hope your appointments with the Therapist went well; I’m still looking for a good therapist to go to but in the interim I’m seeing my counselor and plodding along. Please take care and don’t forget to keep us posted. :D

New Isabella "In gladness and in safety, May all beings be at ease." - Sutta Nipata

Hi there :)

Good to hear from you. keep looking, keep on plodding in the meantime, and keep taking care, and I’ll do the same. :D


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