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any advice? 2 years ago

My father died five years ago. I miss him everyday. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I live life everyday…but I miss him. He died so young and will miss all of the important events of my life. Does anyone have any advice on the best way to accept a death as significant as a parent? I don’t have that typical mother/daughter relationship – my mother is involved in my life, but my dad was the most significant parent for me. I really need to move on with my life and I fear that until I do this, I won’t be able to. Thanks.

Oct 28, 2007, 08:57PM PDT | 1 cheer

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ladibug970

Hello

My father died 3 years ago, of what I felt was an unfair death. He was supposed to come home from the hospital and instead I’m picking him up from the funeral home and buckleing his ashes in the front seat of my car 3 days later. He has missed out on everything signifigent in my life. I graduated college, and got married. These things he wasn’t there for. Im not sure why I’m sending you a comment because I haven’t been able to accept my father’s passing even until this day. I feel guilty for so many things. I moved 3 states away from my mother when I got married and my marriage has suffered because of that. I feel guilty for leaving my mother alone. My father was all she ever knew. If you can find someone to help you, please send them my way. Your in my thoughts.

Dec 04, 2007, 05:28PM PST | Thread | Respond to this

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Ladibug970,

I am so sorry for your loss. It is not easy losing a parent. As I continue to search for closure, I find it comforting to know that others feel the same way as I.

I found this website to represent what so many people go through, but never discuss:
http://wobits.blogspot.com/2007/01/dead-dads-club.html

This blog, sparked by Grey’s Anatomy, discusses the somewhat ficticious “dead dad’s club” and how the void will continue to rage on. It’s true – this is one club that I am so sad to be a part of. No matter what, friends cannot understand what this void feels like until they, themselves, are a member of the ddc.

I, too moved half way across the country and had difficulties maintaining succesful relationships with loved ones. I think (and hope) that this is starting to get better. It’s been almost six years; there’s not a day that goes by that I wish I could wake up from a nightmare where my dad died…unfortunately, for you and for me, it’s not a dream – so, we must move on.

With sincere sympathy for your loss and luck for your healing process.

Dec 04, 2007, 08:43PM PST | Respond to this

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