you can always bring uglyness in the home if you let it. Stop! Don’t dwell on the negative. Its up to you to be head of the family. Take controll spread the love. Be what and who you want to be. These kids are precious and our future. find a balance so that they can be individuals and you can have your life. Be carefull how you mold them. Accept you’re a mum now. Only then will it be easy.