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Trust 2 years ago

I’m not sure what this exercise was about and what God was attempting to teach me or do in my life. Someone told my pastor that he wanted to do something for my kids and I, so he had my pastor contact me, make sure I get in touch with him. This seemed like such an urgent thing with time constraints.

I talked to the guy last week and followed his instructions on what he needed from me. It was mainly more for my kids than me. Anyway, today my pastor calls me to tell me that this person isn’t going to do what he said, cannot follow through.

I didn’t share with my children about anything here. Through the Mt. Everest of disappointments, lack of impeccability (lies or whatever you want to call them) of most people’s word, my trust factor for people is very low.

It’s a shame because it makes me doubt the people that hold true to their word. What is that expression, one bad apple spoils the bunch. Often now, when someone says they will do something, unfortunately I doubt until after it’s been followed through.

Not really sure what the lesson here is. Do not trust people?

Dec 13, 2007, 06:45PM PST | 14 cheers


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Dec 13, 2007, 07:22PM PST

stevenrterry Wants 2010 to be a little bit less stressful than 2009

The lesson

that I would try to take from this would probably be that you should allow people to help… but not count that people WILL help.

Does that make sense?

I am sure you are disappointed again. That is the definition of a life test anyway. I am sorry that this has happened to you.

I think God wants us to be open with other people. He also wants us to make sure we do our best to only count on ourselves.

I hope this helped. Your experience kinda opened my mind a bit and I really appreciate you putting this out there in cyberspace.

Dec 13, 2007, 07:24PM PST | Thread | Respond to this

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous Sufficiency wishes everyone a very Merry Christmas!!!

Independence

Pretty much my whole life I’ve not depended on others, more like a DIYer. If I was not a DIYer, then I paid someone else to do it for me.

I never wanted to rely on anyone for anything, because my parents drilled it into my head that people could not be trusted. You gotta look out for #1.

Well, God’s way isn’t exactly like that. God wants us to rely completely on Him. It doesn’t mean we kick back and do nothing type thing. But, I’ve always controlled this area of my life and now it’s completely out of my control in many ways.

To expect people will do what they will say, to be impeccable with their word, well, that’s too much to ask for for many people. Guess a lot of people are avoiders, too.

This whole experience has made me feel sort of like a carboard person, invisible. It certainly is a reminder to me to not be like that, and if I am, to at least communicate to the other person and not leave them hanging.

Guess common courtesy is also too much to ask for. And, perhaps I lack the understanding here because I’m not given the benefit of the doubt to understand. So, through my hurt and pain, I’ll learn to not be like this set of persons.

Dec 16, 2007, 07:58PM PST | Respond to this 1 cheer

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Dec 13, 2007, 07:35PM PST

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous Sufficiency wishes everyone a very Merry Christmas!!!

Forgiveness

Yes, I’ve been having to practice forgiveness over and over again at the most hurtful things. And, I believe I have, but this has created in me a lack of trust for most people, whereas I used to trust people a lot more.

I was not told why the person backed out or even given a call from the person that did back out for any explanation. I did ask and was not given an explanation, but just that they backed out.

Forgiveness is extended. Patient and understanding? When the person chooses to not speak to me directly to give me any sense of understanding, how does one understand? Patient? I think I’ve practiced patience all year long in my situation.

There are many thoughts running through my head here and it’s not really value-added that I share them at the moment, as they are all negative.

Dec 14, 2007, 05:32AM PST | Thread | Respond to this 5 cheers

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Dec 14, 2007, 06:19AM PST

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous Sufficiency wishes everyone a very Merry Christmas!!!

No Explanation

He wouldn’t provide an explanation. There is nothing I can do here but just accept it and learn that if I were the other person, I would have the courtesy of getting past my own embarrassment and still reaching out to the other person maybe in a different manner.

I know the person didn’t owe me anything, but in my mind, it would’ve been better if no gesture or anything were done than how this whole thing was handled. I also realize that I’m not showing a lot of grace here, and if I were to say that I’m always filled with grace, that would be a lie.

Typically I am very gracious, forgiving and throughout this year, I’ve worked through a lot of that, but obviously not everything is resolved and there is more work for God to do here on me.

But, there are some people in my life who are pretty impeccable with their word. Though they are few, there are some and I am grateful for them. And, this helps bring better awareness to my own actions to make sure I do not commit to something and do not follow through.

Dec 16, 2007, 08:04PM PST | Respond to this 2 cheers

neesej

Let Go!

Hey Doris, Thank you for cheering me everyday.

The best way I’ve found to understand others is by understanding myself. That goes for my relationships too. i.e trying to understand my relationship with myself.

Have your ever got your MBTI profiling done? If not click on this link
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp
There is a free 72 question test. Once you finish answering the questions hit score it. You’ll be given a combination like E (Extrovert) or I (Introvert), S (Sensing) or N (iNtuitive), T (Thinking) or F (Feeling) and J (Judgemental) or P (Perceptive). There are in total 16 variations available. Once you get your combination Type it on google search. eg. INTP, ESTJ etc. Research and read. Nothing is wrong or right. Its just a great way of understanding yourself, how you react in natural circumstances, how you take your relationships etc. If you need help do ask questions, i’ll be happy to assist. My type is ENTP.

Hope this helps. Celebrate your quest to nurture your intuition.

Regards

Jan 15, 2008, 10:06AM PST | Thread | Respond to this

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous Sufficiency wishes everyone a very Merry Christmas!!!

INTJ

I’m a very high “N”. As for the I-T-J….I can also go the other route…I was more INTJ as an engineer than now as a trader.

I should retake it. Will let you know.

Thanks for the encouragement!!!

Jan 16, 2008, 12:06AM PST | Respond to this 3 cheers


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