I hesitated over the I’ve Done This button. Insecurity still lingers, though its siblings, self-pity and self-harm, have stopped visiting. I’ve done a lot to defang insecurity this year. I can’t claim that I never allow it to drape a heavy arm around my shoulders but it doesn’t bite me the way that it did. They’ve all been weakened and, more importantly, they’ve been outlined and defined and profiled thoroughly enough that succumbing to any one of them is now a conscious choice, not a hidden pattern.