We hosted a surprise birthday party for my grandmother this year – under the reality, do it while you can. We had just suffered a great loss in our family and I didn’t want to say, would have, could have, should have. We catered lunch for the Senior Center she attends, set up photos and pictures, sang happy birthday, and served dinner for 50. Surprise…for someone who doesn’t like surprises, she surely appreciated love in action. As for the family – I gave up on everyone doing it the same way, everyone contributing, everyone being supportive. We just did it. Happy Birthday Bigmama!