I have the world’s greatest boyfriend. He loves me, treats me like a princess and wants to marry me. The problem is I can’t let go of the fact that he was married before. He married an old girlfriend who was an exchange student from japan and she was being forced to go back. The marriage ended horrible with her leaving him and cheating on him, in barely over a year. He has told me hundreds of times that he never would have married her if he hadn’t been pressured into it by her and her parents, and that it was never a real marriage. He has also said that he never wanted to grow old with her, or travel with her, or have children with her- all things that he talks about doing with me constantly. I know she’s a horrible person who used a wonderful boy to stay in the country, but I can’t seem to get over it. I feel like less than her and the idea of coming second to her makes me ill. I am very afriad that I’m slowly going to poison a perfect relationship by not being able to get over something that ended over four years ago, and has no place in our lives currently. ick. I just keep shooting myself in the foot.