I see where you’re coming from. I am actually in a relationship right now that is very similar. My boyfriend is very layed back, and when things bother me I need to talk about them. I always end up feeling guilty, because it seems like he just thinks that I’m sweating the small stuff. I’m not really sure how to deal with all of this either, but what I’ve done is just told him exactly how I feel. I told him that I can’t be as relaxed about everthing as he is. I react to the world differently than he does, and he needs to understand that I can’t always mold to the way that he does things.

If you discover any solutions that help… be sure to let me in on the secret.

I am completely in the same situation as everyone else here. Except, we do fight but usually its because I bring up something thats bothering me, and he gets upset because Im overreacting. I do have a tendancy to “nitpick”, so in hopes to repair this relationship I have decided to “pick my battles” more or less. Before I bring up something Im upset or thinking about I think forst how much it really matters. Is it something that is going to keep bothering me, or am I going to forget about it after today? If I still think it needs to be discussed I sit down and talk with him about it. Most of the time though….I worry and think about things that I either know arent ever going to happen, or I just think of the stupidest stuff. Its when I open my mouth and release it that it becomes a problem. Also Ive decided to start keeping a journal with me. If I have things that come to mind that are bothering me, instead of bringing it up there and then Im just going to write it down and come back to it later. If its still something I feel strongly about then it should be discusssed. My bf is very non emotional and laid back as well, so its gonna take some compromise on both our parts. If its something that is important to you and he just gets angry and doesnt listen, then mayve you should start to think about if he is really the one for you. If he cares for you and sees that is is something serious that you need to talk about then he should listen and you should be able to openly and honestly discuss the stiuation.