Gwendydd

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Well, my main focus was Health, and then I got really sick. At least I did something: I went to the doctor and now I have tons of exams, which I’ll at least schedule this week.

Then a friend called and told us there may be a job opening in his city for my very general area. I’m really stressed about this, because the job is in my general area of work, but not really what I want and I’m looking for (and for what I studied the last two and a half years). Besides, we would have to move, rent this apartment, find our son another school, etc… It’s a small city about 8 hours from here, and it means a completely different life. On the other hand, it’s a job, and a job in Music (not many of those where I live) and that means money. I hate, hate, hate moving. With a passion. I’m soooo torn. If the same job was here, I wouldn’t hesitate. If it was somewhere else implying a move but was more related to what I really want, I would hesitate a little but still pursue it. But the way things are, that’s two bad things for one so-so thing. On the other hand it’s MONEY (which we need now), and change is supposed to be good, and it would look great on my resumé in a couple of years… It’s driving me nuts…. sigh
If I pursue this, it would set me back on all the “me” goals I was so happy about. Grrr….

Still, let’s get to my weekly meeting:

  1. 1: Meeting – OK
  2. 2: New wording: De-clutter as if I were planning to move.
    Already dealt with a huge pile of scores and got rid of some. Organized the others by language/period (there’s still a small pile left). Got rid of a big cracked salad bowl I insisted on keeping for some insane reason
    #3: Work/Career: call said friend this week and gather more info
    #4: Went to the doctor, taking medicine. Must schedule my exams (I’ll call on Monday!)
    All others but taking care of my family are on hold.

Jan 13, 2008, 01:31PM PST | 11 cheers


Comments:

Madam Ish Tea? Espresso? Dreams interpreted? You're in the right place.

That's a tough decision to make

I’d say, if the job isn’t really what you’re looking for, and you can afford to pass it up, then maybe you should.

Years ago, I was in a similar position. I was taking courses, aiming for a career change, but started to feel the money pinch. So I ended up giving up the courses and moving to another city to take a well-paying job, but one that took me back to the kind of work I knew I didn’t really want to do. But it paid.

I’ve often regretted that I didn’t stick with my dream and finish the courses. In some ways, taking the job I didn’t like was the easy way out of a difficult situation. But I hear you – follow your dream, or pay the rent? It’s tough.

Best of luck in working out the right answer for you!

Jan 14, 2008, 06:37AM PST | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Gwendydd

Thanks for this

It’s really tough for me. I feel like I should take the job (if I get it, mind you… there’s a very tricky process to go through…), specially since I didn’t make any money in Nov/Dec, when my scholarship run out. Even with my scholarship I wasn’t making much, so I feel kind of guilty!
But what’s ultimately making me consider it after all is that the very specific kind of job I’m looking for is very, very uncommon were I live, and to get one my resume would have to look even better than it does now… and it probably will with a job like the one I heard of on it. So maybe it’ll be a springboard for better thigs later on. I hope so!

I’d like to know: did you get back on track with your dreams after all?

Jan 19, 2008, 09:42AM PST | Thread | Respond to this 4 cheers

Madam Ish Tea? Espresso? Dreams interpreted? You're in the right place.

Let's say

life got in the way, and the dreams changed.

About a year and a half after I gave up “the dream”, I got married, then I got pregnant soon after… we ended up with four kids, and now I have my Mom and my brother to look after, too. It’s amazing how quickly 15 years can go by.

I’d say the chances that I’d ever go back and take those publishing courses is practically zero. But I do have the hope that I might do something different when the kids are all in school full time.

Jan 19, 2008, 10:58AM PST | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Gwendydd

I’m sorry for that, and it took me some time to reply because I was looking for a book. Fifteen years are 15 years, so you must have a completely different life by now, and I have no idea what you do. I can barely manage with my only child and all the rest, so I suppose taking care of all those people is already a full-time job.
Anyway, I was looking for my copy of What Color is your Parachute?, by Richard Bolles. In my 1996 edition, on p.156, he starts talking about career changes. He shows that skills correspond to general job-titles and knowledges to fields os interest, and then explains how to make a career change with less pain and hassle than you’d expect. You change first just either the title (what you do) or the field. Only then you take the next step. For instance, if you are an accountant in a television station, you might first become an accountant in a medical firm and later a reporter for a medical journal, or first become a reporter at the television station and then a reporter for a medical journal (the “dream”, in this case). Of course, this probably is just useless now to you, but I remember really enjoying the book for a lot of other reasons, so I couldn’t not tell you about it, specially since you were so kind to me.

Feb 04, 2008, 12:35PM PST | Respond to this 5 cheers


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